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writes:he has been asked to go on a sleep over with this boy matt, who is 2 years older than him, and his girl mate who is the same age. I don't really want him to go, but I cant explain why, its not because I don't trust him because I do. but he thinks its because I don't trust him. its a bit because I don't really see other couples who really love each other going and having sleepovers with other girls. he told me yesterday that he has already been on sleepovers with them two but didn't tell me because he knew i wouldn't like it. is it normal for boyfriends to go on sleepovers with other girls? is it wrong for me to not want him to go on a sleepover with another girl? Reply to this Question
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (24 October 2010):
 He lied to you again..yeah that's grounds for a break up. Your call.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhis parents have only found out tonight because i was really upset about it, and he told me he wasnt going to go on a sleepover with them. and i just found out that hes at theres right now! his parents arent ok with it, but he would get round it somehow. the girl is my boyfriends bestfriend but he never hung out with her that much until he went on study leave. and its not that i dont trust him to be with other girls. but that fact that i just found out he lied to me AGAIN! i dont know if i should end it or give him another chance. i hate the thought of breaking up with him though! AHHH!
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (24 October 2010):
What? When the hell did sleepovers become coed? Now, I'm 25..and when I was your age sleepovers meant strictly with your girl friends. I wasn't even sure if boys did sleepovers at that age, might have had a buddy or two sleep over but that was it. Like female ANON pointed out I can't see the girl's parents being comfortable with this. And what is his 15-17 year old friend doing on sleepovers? I grew out of those around, 16..and started using it as an excuse to go to parties and pass out drunk at the party instead. You're right not to feel comfortable with it, and to even question it. This is also not the first time he has done this, this time he's actually telling you. I would be pretty steamed that he lied to you about those other times. So because he previously lied to you, I wouldn't trust him on these fishy sleepovers. You obviously can't stop him from doing what he wants, because he will do it without you knowing. Rethink this relationship very carefully.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2010): I think its odd. Why would their parents let a couple [that are underage] spend the night together? With another dude! Im sorry, but im 13 as well and if that happened I would be a little worried. Do his parents know about it? Do they let him? My mom would kill me if she knew I was going to spend the night with a guy. Of course its not wrong that you dont like it. Ask him why he feels the need he to spend the night with this couple. Are they really good friends? Do you trust his friend and girlfriend?
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