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writes: My ex and I broke up 4 weeks ago, except we have still been fooling around until this thursday. Now it's definitely over because he has a new girlfriend (however, they started going out on Tuesday and we have had sex since then). I posted a few days ago as I was confused about my feelings, and people here generally thought that we were still in love with eachother but shouldn't be together. So here I am, trying to block him out of my life, and trying to move on.A friend of my ex's has been hitting on me over the past 2 or 3 days. We got on really well in the past, but when he asked me for a relationship I wasn't sure. I associate him with my ex. Also, he is a 20 year old virgin who has absolutely no clue about anything as far as girls are concerned, which is the complete opposite to my ex who was a bit of a player. Is it wise to go from someone who's very experienced to someone who's very inexperienced? I'm 16, and to be honest i'm not sure whether i'm comfortable being the person that this guy loses his virginity to. But then, I'm concerned because I think that may be the reason why he wants me. I have a feeling that my ex told all his mates about everything that was going on in his sex life, so this guy would know about everything that I have done (which is a lot of very kinky stuff). I really like this guy, and i seem to have led him on a bit (don't really know how to reject people) but I don't know whether it's a good idea to go out with my ex's mate, especially when my ex told this guy that I had a new bf so that he wouldn't go after me. But I have a lot of pride, and if I do turn this guy down I don't want to make it obvious that I still have feelings for my ex.
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reader, Aquagal +, writes (29 October 2006):
 If you have doubts about being the one this guy will lose his virginity to, then perhaps it would be better for you two not to get involved - at least, not just yet. You've only broken up recently and remember that anything can happen. Give yourself time first to get over your ex (assuming that's what you want to do), but there's nothing wrong with a little harmless flirting with your ex's friend. Just remember to keep it light because as you know boys can be misled very easily. After giving yourself enough time to gather your thoughts about what you want in your next relationship it'll probably be safe to 'move on'. Your ex, if you have really gotten over him, shouldn't be forever seen to give you worry or grief. Maybe then the lad you're into at the moment won't be seen by you as nothing more than just 'your ex's mate'.
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