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writes:I really need some advise. There's a guy at work who I have a big crush on or maybe more. I know dating coworkers its a bad idea, most of the time. So I was trying not to put attention to him. At the beginning I noticed him and liked him right away and I also got vibes that he liked me too, even though we hardly ever talk. He wasn't making any moves to talk to me more. After a few months of this, He has pulled away and doesn't even walk by me or even looks at me, he turns the other way when he sees me. I feel a little bit sad and really miss him. Maybe it was my fault? I don't know. I really like him and would like us to get closer but not sure if its too late. What should I do to try to get him re-interested? or should I just move on? Thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2018): Oh by the way, did he happen to change his behavior after the federally-mandated sexual-harassment training seminar? They're required in the USA for businesses of a certain size and number of employees.
Men are getting called-out by women for inappropriate behavior left and right lately. Maybe he has decided not to risk his job!
Men are getting the message about messing with women at the workplace. I think the same rules apply to women!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (8 January 2018):
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I would try to gain his attention again.
Should have been...
I wouldn't try to gain his attention again.
LOL Darn darn autocorrect........
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2018): You hardly even talk? He makes no moves? He walks by and doesn't even look?!!
Where are the vibes coming from? You're mind-reading. or what?
If he hasn't made any moves, it could be that he's not interested and never really was. It's could be mostly wishful-thinking on your part.
It's your workplace. Mirror his actions. Be professional and distant. I think that's the message he's sending you!
Don't use your job as a dating-pool! It's fishing in a barrel for trouble, and a sexual-embarrassment complaint!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (8 January 2018):
Maybe he has come to the conclusion that dating coworkers is not a good idea, OR he isn't interested at all.
I would try to gain his attention again. If you are looking to date, look outside your work place.
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