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writes:I split up with my boyfriend after a year because he always put me down and I was fed up with the arguements.. He was really upset and said he would change if I gave him another chance but I was unsure and so had to think about it. I'v now realised how much I miss him but when I told him i would like to give it another try he said that we will never work again.. I dont understand..?! I feel like I have messed everything up and it really hurts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2008): It's normal to feel terrible after a break-up, but in this case I think you were completely right to break up with your boyfriend.
No one is supposed to put another person down. Your boyfriend seems to have power issues. He wanted to resume the relationship on his terms, when he asked. If he truly wanted to be with you, he wouldn't mind waiting while you thought things over.
You did not mess things up. You did what you felt was best for you, and you should feel proud of that.
There will always be someone else. Give yourself time to grieve and move on.
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reader, StudentOfLife  +, writes (5 June 2008):
 Well maybe his love for you, since it wasn't nourishes, faded away.
We often don't realize how happy we are while we're living it. We don't notice it until it's gone.
If he doesn't love you anymore, find somebody else who will. Find another kind of thrill, find another way to fill this loneliness.
Nothing never happen for no reason. Maybe he will realize how much he misses you when he'll start to date other girls. Maybe you'll realize that you don't really love him when you'll start dating other guys.
Life is weird at times....
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2008): It's not your fault. Women have a tendancy to rethink things and believe that things might've been different if we did things another way. You have to stop blaming yourself. Try talking to him again in a mature matter that won't come off as desperate...find out what you both want and if both of you are willing to try to make it work. If he isn't keen, then you know you should move on. Just remember, it's not your fault.
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