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writes:Hi everyone :) I am really like caught right now so I'm gonna ask for some advice here :) A few weeks ago my boyfriend and I broke up but after a few days he texted me to see how I was doing.. And we just started talking as if the thing that broke us apart was forgotten... Anyways, we decided that for now we won't change anything and just stick to being friends like before we started dating.. And we've been chatting since then. And we feel like it's better to be this way cuz for some reason just a status can make such a huge difference.... Is it actually like okay??? I mean we still really like each other and we don't really wanna have that awkward thing going on cuz we have a lot of mutual friends.. and tbh we both feel really comfortable with this arrangement.. But he did also admit that cliche saying "can't live without you." And I feel like he is telling the truth considering he started talking to me and all... Anyways, I feel like this is quite a comfortable thing for me and him... Is it safe to trust him and is this normal to happen?? Btw I'm turning 16 in 4 months and he's 16 in a month :) Pls give me some of your opinion on this :) but don't be harsh pweseeee cuz I asked some past questions and some ppl were being super harsh and scared the living day light outta me :/ Thank you :) x
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (11 September 2014):
 Certainly it's OK to stay super close friends with someone you have been very close with, even intamate. We are all adults here, right? Just because you are not 'officially' going together that doesn't mean you must hate one another or anything even like that. I hear certain ex-wives and ex-husbands are very close friends this day in time[welthey have to be for the kid's sake,right...no just because they were good friends before they got married. Good Luck and don't let your friends efine your friendship with others.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (11 September 2014):
 I have to agree with the first anon poster. Being friend with an ex is rarely a good idea, because it hold you BOTH back from moving forward.
Is it "safe" to trust him? Well I think a GUY who will LIE to his GF, will lie to his ex-gf who is now his sort of "friend" too.
Seems to me that he DOESN'T want to date you but still want to have that "GF" feeling with you. Is that what YOU want? Or are you just happy that he still want to be around you? If you are older I would say he is looking to keep the sex going without having to be a in a relationship with you, but you two are just 15 so I hope there is no sex going on.
What was the reason you broke up?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2014): Has he done anything to hurt you? If a guy is disrespectful to you; or if he was violent to you, you should just move on and put distance between you. If you're talking about getting jealous if he sees other girls now? That's no longer your business. When someone is your ex, they can do whatever they like. So can you.
You'll find out when you start to talk to other boys. If he gets angry about it. End the friendship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2014): I'm the person that posted the question... Sorry I accidentally wrote boyfriend XD I meant is it safe to trust him again? SORRY! My mistake!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2014): I have recently game out of a relationship and couldn't think of anything worse than still being friends with an ex. The way I see it is you can't be friends with an ex, it either means you are still in love with with them or you never were.
I feel like the best thing to do is break off all contact with your ex, it hurts for a little while but it gets easier. If he broke things off with you isn't that saying something's. I have also learnt not to trust words, trust actions. If he can't live without you he will do something about it.
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