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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Over the past year I have developed strong feelings for a former teacher of mine. We became close during my senior year of high school. By that I mean we would occasionally have lunch together and gossip, joke around and sometimes have some pretty serious deep discussions. We texted each other often and talked on the phone sometimes. We kept in touch over the summer. He was at the school during the summer often and I would visit him there. I have visited over the course of this semester even though I am in college now. I look forward to seeing him and chatting with him about college and whatever is going on in my life. He listens, gives me advice, and seems to truly care about me which is something that I don't get from anyone else (including my family). He is a very big part of my life. Although I think that I am over my infatuation, a part of me still has some romantic feelings towards him. He is married so there is absolutely no hope of ever being with him. Even so, I can't help but have these feelings. Is it "okay" for me to remain friends with him even though he is married? I don't feel that we are doing anything wrong although I feel guilty because I am harboring feelings for him. Is there something I can do to get rid of these feelings besides ending my friendship with him? I've tried not talking to him or texting him, but it never works. I either crack and text him or he calls me up.Thank you in advance to any advice that is given.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm not sure if his wife knows about me in particular or not. But she knows that he keeps in touch with many former students (male or female) through text, email, etc.
Thanks for the advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2008): It's okay to remain friends as long as there is no hidden agenda on either sides of the friendship. Does his wife know he spends as much time talking to you and texting you?
There are boundaries here that should not be crossed!
Keep it at the level it is now and I see no problem.
Be cautious and don't make it something it's NOT.
Good Luck!
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