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writes:My grandma is trying to hook me up with a waiter that she sees every weekend at a local resturant. She dragged me in thier and I met the waiter he was good looking and he seemed to be interested in me. But My aunt informed me that he was engaged. I was taken back by this My first thought was I can't date someone who is engaged thats not right. But my Aunt said that he was not married so that was alright he may break it off. What do you think is this ok ? To date someone who is engaged?
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reader, lexilou  +, writes (14 May 2008):
 It doesnt matter if hes engaged, married or just dating her of course its not right to date him!! Find your own man, how would you ever trust someone who would break up their engagement to be with you x
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2008): Yes it is o.k to date someone who is engaged.
There are no rules in life. Its plain to see its a 'dog eat dog' world, and you need to grab what you can.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2008): No its not right to date some one thats engaged!! Thats what happened my fiance and me and why we broke up! Some other girl thought it was ok to "date & sleep" with him while we were 2gether! Yeah ok it wasn't entirely her fault but my fiance could have said no to her as well...
You will end up losing the guy, friends, and have a name for yourself all over town!!
Think of it this way - how would you feel if this guy was your fiance and you found out that some one was trying to set him up on a date?!?! You wouldn't stand for it either and be hurt about it!!! Don't do it - there's plenty more single and available guys out there........
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reader, Miss Potter +, writes (14 May 2008):
 Hi there, its not ok to date engaged people, UNLESS they initiate it and obviously break off the engagement straight away.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2008): No, I think that it would make you a home wrecker. If he's engaged, then he's already deeply committed to someone. You shouldn't mess that up for them. There are plenty of cute single guys out there, so why not find one of them?
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (14 May 2008):
Oh and another thing to think about....
dating someone who is engaged would be classed as cheating. And statistics prove that if a relationship is started on the basis of cheating, then the chances of it working out decrease dramatically.
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reader, happytochat +, writes (14 May 2008):
No I dont think thats ok. Sure its not offical that they are married, but they are plannign on it. They are COMMITED to being married. Just think about if that guy was your fiance and some girl wanted to go out with him, would you want her to back off and respect your relationship? I think you would...
As for him showing interest in you, im sure you are a lovely person but his interest could of just been him doing his job- waiters have to be friendly and show an interest in their customers.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2008): Of course it isn't OK to date him. It'd be just the same as dating someone with a girlfriend. In fact, it'd be worse. In any case, if he cares about this other girl enough to want to marry her, then your odds are low anyway.
Don't be the floozy who runs off with another woman's guy, it's just skanky.
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