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writes:I posted on here some time last week but didn't get any responses, so I'm going to try one more time. Maybe my question was too vague. I met this girl off a dating web site about a month and a half ago. She lives a good bit from me. A handful of hours. So it wasn't conducive for us to see each other, so we just got to know each other through text and phone convo. Well that quickly turned into constant talking. Every spare moment we had, we were spending on the phone with each other. But we both had recently, in the last six months, come out of bad relationships that have left us jaded. I suppose I let it be known I wasn't interested in having a girlfriend. And I think she was initially drawn to me because I didn't throw myself at her or shower her with flattery that she's so used to because she's a very pretty girl. So I was like a challenge to her. I went there to see her and we had sex. When I left, we continued on with our weird little friendship/relationship for a while longer. Continued talking all the time, sending pics, etc. but I'd realized my feelings had changed. I actually really cared for this girl. I admitted to having feelings for her - and she flipped out on me! Said I had shut her off from any idea of us being together right off the bat. And she actually got mad! It upset me a good bit. But I told her we could just stay friends. Well we still continued to talk 24-7, and on numerous occasions, she admitted there's an attraction and that if I hadn't been so closed off from the get go, she would have been open to the idea of us. But she got used to us being the way we were. Well we continued to talk non stop. Well yesterday she tells me she's going on a date tonight. It actually really bummed me out but I didn't say anything. I went to bed then woke up to sexy pictures this morning that she sent me. What the hell is going on?? I guess what confuses me most is that I can't imagine investing that much time into someone if there were no feelings involved. Is it normal to talk constantly to someone you're not interested in? For me, I would never stay up til all hours of the night talking to someone unless I liked them. Or send them pics unless I was interested. Help me understand, please. I'm so confused. And I get to sit and watch her go out with someone else tonight. Ugh.
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (28 April 2012):
 i think you should wean yourself off of this relationship.find someone closer who doesnt play games
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (27 April 2012):
 I think she likes you, but as she said from the start she thought it was just going to be a bit of fun she adjusted to that. You both live away from each other so she probably just sees it as a bit of fun and she is not wanting to get in to anything to serious because of these issues. It sounds like she has great time for you and enjoys talking to you, I guess it probably passes time for her. Am not sure if she was trying to make you jealous or not, but it is time to become realistic here, if you really like her you are going to end up hurt if you don't do something about her now. So I think you should be honest with her, tell her that it was not nice hearing she was going out on a date and that you like her, give her the option that either you both talk about getting serious or else this is all over.
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