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writes:Long story short, many years ago my wife and I had some problems that caused us to be seperated for about six weeks. In that time she moved in with another man, then we got back together. Is it normal that it mentally kills me she has had sex with someone else? It really bothers me. I love her more than anything, but I can't seem to get over the fact that either she was already screwing this guy before she left me, thus she cheated. Or she hooked up with this guy so fast after she left. Even though she left me then, it feels like she was unfaithful either way having sex with another man. I really don't know how to not feel this way. I know I need to stop, it's not fair to either of us.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2012): I don't know if she moved in with him, or hooked up with him because they lived in the same house. Either way, I can't close my eyes without seeing this guy having sex with my wife. As much as I love her and trust her now. It still kills me inside to know she was intamate with another man. It hurts to think she cared for him in such a short time and gave herself to him.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (9 December 2012):
 Yes I believe in your case it is perfectly normal to feel the way that you do. If she went out and had a one night stand while you where broken up it would be different to actually moving in with a guy when you where only split up for 6 weeks. You need to sit down with her and tell her how you feel. Talk to her about it and ask her what she was thinking or why she done it. Do you trust her? Because if you don't then no matter how much you love her, really there is just no way this marriage is going to work. It sounds like you both need to communicate more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2012): 6 weeks is such a short time for a spouse to move with another partner, and of top of that, if you have the suspicion she was cheatting on you long before that is because you probably are right. the trust bond that you both had together she broke it. i would not have taken her back, but as you chose to have her back i strongly suggest you counselling, because what you are going thru could destroy your marriage. good luck.
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