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41-50,
*ngelB143
writes:My bf of 2 years is super sweet we hang out almost every day and he never wants to go out with his friends but ive never stopped him from doing anything, hes just so infatuated with me, always wants to see me, texts me i love you in every message he sends me, calls me in the morning and night and in between all the time. Always wants me by his side when he goes out/run errands loves to hang out with me, we have such a good time, laughing making fun of each other, theres never been a night he just wanted 2 go out without me. He introduced me to his parents 6 months after we started going out and ive been going to his house ever since and his parents love me they think i had such a good influence on him b/c hes become more happier since he met me. Hes an only child and hes only had 1 long term gf and she ended up cheating on him but he said he was lucky b/c she didnt mean 2 much to him cause they were distant anyway.Recently he got a new govt. job in October at an airport where he works with 100's of people checking passengers. He told me his password for his email and 1 day i checked his email account and found an email for a dating website that he had joined, he called me that day from work and i just asked him who he was talking to and about dating website - he said he joined it long before he met me which was true cuz he had told me that as well a while ago. i told him someone told me something about him and he better tell me or i'll break up with him, he started breaking down crying saying ive never done anything he's like what are you talking about who told you this bs? then finally he's like i did give these girls a ride that work with me one of them is a friend of a friends sis, which was true and the other 1 i never remember him mentioning but i remember he did tell me at the beginning when he started that he gave 2 chicks a ride but that was a long time ago. he said he gave one chic a ride by herself cuz she ran out of gas and called him up 4 a ride and it only happened once alone. first he denied talking to her on phone then he told me he did only few times just about work dats it. plus shes engaged as well. i found his phone bill there are no long phone calls after work but he was da1 trying to call her at work a few times but it was 1 min phone calls cuz i think he tried callng her but she never picked up while at work cuz they work at diff points at the airport. calls strtd at end of oct to nov and only like 2 in dec. i know he loves me with all of his heart i just dont know why he wud wanna call another chick at work. i asked him this engaged coworkers # and he gave it to me, i called her and she said first of all i have a bf and your bf loves you to death and they only talked about work. i also asked the other girl she said he always talks bout you at work we have a nickname its "whipped" and she works with him all da time she never noticed anything b/w them. i dunno why im so paranoid i keep thinking dat maybe he was attracted 2 this girl thats why he would try contacting her while they are @ work. its hard to get over. i know im being irrational.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2010): there is a lesson to be learned here- never check your boyfriends texts/emails! It will only make you paranoid when 99% of the time it is totally innocent. And lying about someone telling you something? We all get a little irrational sometimes but this behaviour is likely to make things worse for you. You're lucky that he's so innocent he would think to mention giving girls lifts and talking to them- for most people, this is just everyday life. Genders mix and interact with no ulterior motives, honestly, it happens. I really think the only reason for worry here is your paranoia on the situation- why do you feel like this, is it issues surrounding past relationships, or has he ever given you reason to mistrust him? Is it underlying guilt over a secret you've kept from him? Or is it that you don't feel you deserve to be happy and feel like something is gonna go wrong. Don't make that happen! You sound like a sweet person but cool it with the break up threats and calls to his co-workers over lifts! Do you have discomfort over him having female friends or was it just that one in particular? I think you need to figure out where these thoughts are coming from and take it from there. Good luck!
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reader, girl from bristol  +, writes (3 February 2010):
you need to trust him he loves you very much he is just friend with the girls thats all dont lose him because you are accusing him all the time
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