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writes: I wrote on here a while back about meeting a girl who was in a different league so to speak. I'm from a well respected family with good standard of living etc. She was from lower social class and there were some reports of stealing in her family circle so the family has a bad name. The result being my family wouldn't allow me to date her. I could kinda see their point as i didnt want to be involved with people that were up to no good. But it doesn't stop my feelings for her as she is a good girl and we just wanted a chance. Is it important to mix with similar people when choosing future partners?I've started a new relationship, but i still cannot stop thinking about her. I respect my parents so I will not argue with them, plus my mum is ill so not worth the stress of arguing. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2006):
Easy!
You need to look at the qualities that the person has, not the qualities that are nomally associated with the person's class.
She might be intellectually curious even though the poor aren't usually intellectual. Or she could be upper class but amoral.
You need to look at the qualities she actually is verified to have.
And if you ever stay with the in-laws inthe future, you'll know to bring your own reading material....
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2006): im from quite a poor family, i live in a council house etc. my bf comes from a working class family but they do have quite a bit of money. my family love him, his family love me. i really dont see why it would be a problem, if this girl means that much to you, you would not let her family or yours stand in the way.
if it was someone in her family that stole and not her why judge her on it?
HTH xXx
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reader, kellyO  +, writes (4 October 2006):
 Hi,
Iam from a higher social class myself but i dont really look on the class of people i date just what they have in their heart and how working they are. I am not judging u in anyway since your situation is abit complex with your family having negative doubts against her and the family. I presume that the stealing issue didnt help the matter but as long as she wasnt involved directly in the crime she isnt to blame for it. You cant blame an entire family for the way one member of the family chooses to act.
I can see from your posting that she is still in your heart even if u are now in another relationship. I am afraid i dont see much for you there in this new relationship or it working for u,if u still have the desire to be with another. I would suggest regardless of what u parents think that u should follow your heart. You dont have to argue with them becos they are all just concern and dont want to see you hurt. You just have to sell her good points to them and make them realise how important she is to you.Avoid confrontation with your mum and give her the chance to recover.i hope with time they accept her and the relationship.
Goodluck dear.
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