A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi, alright, for starters, im 17, 18 in july, and me and my boyfriend grew up together, he lived 3 houses away from me, and we have been dating for almost 3 months. He is 16, and im 17, almost 18, in the first month, his mother was upset and angry and took it out on me, and him, she kicked him out, and threatened me. He is now living back with his mother as of yesterday, and for the past week er so that he has been staying there, it seems like were "drifting apart", I feel like shes trying to get us to break up by getting him back there to live, and by making up rules like : hes not aloud to talk/text me if shes around. We were so close we talked about having a life together like most people(couples) but it felt and sounded serious and got me excited, and we talked about having kids and planning stuff, and now hes making up excuses, and i dont no if its actually her, or if its him making up excuses to not see me., am i worrying to much, or not enough? Any advice for our relationship to save it is needed. Thankss :) Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, GeeGee255  +, writes (1 May 2011):
 I think you are going to have to wait 2 more years for anything to have a chance with this guy. Right now he is still legally and emotionally a kid, while you are almost a fully grown adult. But the older you both get the less those two short years will matter to you or anyone else.
A
reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHeyy GeeGee255, No i actually dont have any idea why, me and his mother were soo good before we actually started dating, we would go for walks together and just talk, and now that im dating her son, its like she was only playing me, at first she did admit to me and him, that she was worried about us getting pregnant so young because she was 15 when she did, and she just wanted us to be safe an all, and not make the same mistake she did, he does respect her rules, and her, but im not ready to let go, like i think we got a good shot, but we need her to back off a little bit, which im unsure if thats going to happen or not.. Thanks for your advice, hope you get back :)
...............................
A
female
reader, GeeGee255 +, writes (27 April 2011):
I am sorry his mother is so against you two being a couple.
I know it hurts. Do you have any idea why? Does she hate all his girlfriends or just against his dating anyone at his age. Is she afraid he will get someone pregnant? Or are you the only one she seems to have a problem with?
If you were both older I would tell you that a real man would never allow his mother to tell him who he can and can not have a relationship with with. But you're not older. You are both still teenagers, and financially dependant on your parents. So he really has no choice. He has to respect her rules, if he wants to live with her until he finishes high school.
So unless by some miracle she changes her mind, I would forget about him and any plans you guys made together. He may wish he could keep the promises he made to you, but he is unable to do so at this time.
...............................
|
