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writes:, I am having some guy trouble. This is my first time seeking advice so I don't know how to start off. Last April I broke up with my boyfriend, a week or two later I got with a guy (Philip) 3 years older than me and we 'hit it off' almost straight away I fell madly in love with him and completely forgot about my ex almost straight away. In June I left for 3 weeks to go to an Irish college where I was out of contact from the outside world. On the first Sunday I got my phone for the first time to get the news that he was going to America for 6 weeks I was gutted I didn't even get to see him before he went but he emailed me while I was at the Irish college I wasn't able to email back. When I came out I was feeling iffy about weather it would work or not so I told him maybe we should end things even though it wasn't what I wanted it was what people were telling me to do, he replied saying he'd make it work and paid $150 to get unlimited internet for the month he was out there so he could talk to me whenever I wanted to. A day or two on a girl informed me that he chatted her on Facebook telling her that she looks pretty in her profile picture and I ended things. We came to the conclusion that we can see what happens when he gets home. One day I saw him in a picture with a girl and by the comments I felt that something happened betweent them so that night I went out and got with someone when Philip found out he went crazy and said he doesn't see a future for us. So since then I've been trying to move on but it hasn't been happening. Last Saturday he chatted me asking to meet me when he comes home then he told me he misses me and said he wants to see where things go. I was thrilled. But the next problem is tomorrow I'm going back to school, he's not home for another week and the week after he gets home he's going to college. I'm wondering should it be better to just leave it and try my best to get over him or to give it another shot even though it'll be tough? Please get back to me as soon as you can!Niamh :)
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (27 August 2014):
 I'm confused (hence my name)
these are the facts as I see them....
you broke up with a boy and very quickly after that met Phillip and immediately got into a relationship with him
you were gone for 3 WEEKS
in that three weeks Phillip went to America for SIX weeks.
in the span of 9 weeks you two could not manage to communicate effectively
because he TALKED to some girl and said she was pretty you broke up with him...
you saw a photo and based on what you read and believed without talking to your boyfriend you went out and cheated on him with someone else...
now he's coming home but you are going to college...so you would be apart anyway...
I think that it's better for both of you if you don't bother to try to do an LDR I sense you are not cut out for them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2014): Me n my group of friends dont believe in LDR.
How could you make things work with someone who lives a million miles away from you?
Yeah theres net but its nothing compare to real time live update withs someone you love.
The chances of infidelity third party is bigger for ldr romance.
I havent tried and i guess i will never try unless his proven himself to me.
With how things are with you i suggest for you to face reality and try to meet someone within your reach.
It may work for some but i guess its not for everyone. Based on your story i dont think he takes things seriously.
Never even pay attention in making things work for both.
Unless you have given him reason not to. In the past.
I say just leave it.. date someone else.
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