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female
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writes:my bf saw a public message sent by a an old friend of mine i met over a party i went to (male). and my boyfriend saw it and practically insists on making a huge deal out of it, and turning jealous. Now i understand that the message might have been a bit too much with the use of words such as "babe", "see u next time ;)" and etc.. I replied to him in a very normal way and with no reply to his approaches. Except my Bf decided to just get really mad at me , and bring up the attention issues he has with me, such as not calling as much, not texting as much.. After resolving it, My friend just told me he sent him a private message after that asking him to watch his mouth, and that it was disrespectful - she's my gf. I'm guessing he's still thinking bout it, since its been days after the weekend he decided to send an email to him. is this okay for me to NOT know, and just not mention it to my bf, or should i butt in and try to talk to him more about it, if it bothers him that much. i have no problem making him feel more assured but it is taking a toll on me, wondering about his reaction, he can be very stubborn. We've has these problems before where random guys do hit on me, and he's not around all the time, since we're both in different uni's so different friends, but this time he said he couldnt take it anymore and that's that. i think he has quite a jealousy problem, sometimes makes me feel that no one can touch me even if i hang out with my friends fr awhile he gets very cranky. Is it because Im very hard to trust, he's too protective, or an act of love?thank you if replied. peace!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2009): He has a jealousy problem. And he has NO right to get mad at YOU for what your ex boyfriend (or whoever) writes to you. You are not responsible for the actions of others!!
I have a friend who's struggling with the exact same thing, she can't go to parties or hang out with friends together with her boyfriend, because the minute she is enjoying herself he thinks she is flirting with other guys. And if she talks to someone else but him he gets angry at her again for "not paying him enough attention" and yaddayadda.
Its a trust issue AND a jealousy problem! Huge jealousy problem. This can get bad very quickly, and start to control you if you dont watch out.
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