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writes: I was dating a guy a yr ago he was 41 and I was 20. and at the time i was in trade school, working and taking care of my gmom. And he was working none stop and had to move to atl for his job. The relationship didnt last very long because we didnt have enough time for each other. He wants to try and work things out again. Im not sure if I should?While in the relationship he thought he knew what was right for me to do cause he was older but at the same time i thought he was kind of fathering me...He's has moved back to philly and talking bout moving in together. Somewhere close to my family so I can still help out. Its good in a way... we know we will be seeing each other everynite but is it a good thing to jump back into the relationship so fast and move in? Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (25 January 2012):
 41 to 20 is a big gap. I would not move in together either.
especially if you feel he was paternal towards you.
I'd see him but give the relationship LOTS of time to grown... what you want at 20 will not be what you want at 25 trust me.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (25 January 2012):
 Don't jump right back in, you have grown a little while he was gone and maybe you want other things or even another person to spend your life with.
Take it slow, real slow. And if he seems to controlling, get out.
Seems to me like he wants to call all the shots, claiming he "knows" better because he is older.. that kind of makes me leery of him.
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