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writes: I am seeing an old friend who has just recently gotten out of a long term relationship. It seems like he is trying to move into Boyfriend status very quickly. His girlfriend left out of town with his 2 kids less then a month ago. He respects that I want to wait. I don't feel he's ready for a relationship with me right now because I do not want to get hurt (just in case he gets back w/ the mother of his children) They still argue on the phone (now because of me. I think) I tried to stop talking to him to give him time to cope with his situation but he is starting to get attached to me. He always wants to come over or wants me to go visit him. We have not yet had sex either but he very much wants to.. I really do care about him alot but I do not know if its for the moment but the feeling for me is strong. Its just that he is moving very fast. Is his attachment to me somehow related to his break up with his ex. and what should I do? should I truly step back and risk the loss. Can I also just be the girl who is just here so he will get over his relationship/
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reader, kellyO  +, writes (23 December 2005):
 Hi there, i really dont think it will be wise to venture into a relationship with him straight ahead. He needs time to sort his feelings and issues which happened in his lastbreak up.
You said he is willing to wait then i think he is understanding and wont want to rush you if you tell him. This will also allow you to access your feelings.
Goodluck. Merry xmas and happy new yr
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reader, wierd al +, writes (23 December 2005):
Sometimes after someone gets out of a long term relationship they need a period in between this breakup and their next relationship. But people somtimes want to move on quickly but they find out in the end that they didn't know what thay realy wanted so I think you should try and hold off on this for a little while maybe a month, so he can get his feeling stratened out and this is from experiance
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