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writes:Hey guys! Okay so i have a question...well its more like i need advice..Okay, so i dated this guy for about 4 years, things were really serious and i loved him a lot...but after the first 2 years we had some shaky periods. His best friend and me were pretty close, i have a feeling he was always flirting with me but its hard to say. Anyways, we broke up, and for the last year or so i've been devloping really serious feelings for his best friend. Sometimes his friend says the most romantic things in text messages and we text eachother all day, but other times he acts like he doesnt care and were just normaal friends. Either way though, we text all day everyday. I don't see him that much...last time i bummbed into him at a bar and we kissed (it was a peck) but he walked away after and didn't talk to me much for the rest of night. I found out my ex. wasnt faithful and him and this friend have been having a bit of a falling out anyways...When we've talked about my ex. sometimes the friend says things that make it seems like hes going to pursue us, and other times he says how scary it would be if my ex. found out how we talk.I dont know what to make of this? I've been waiting so long and i don't know if he actually cares about me or not, and if he does if he'll ever tell me ex. and get it out in the open. help!
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reader, Lola1 +, writes (16 September 2009):
 If this guy isn't ready to make a move after a year, I'd move on.
The truth is, dating your best friend's ex-girlfriend is a cardinal sin. He probably has feelings for you, but feels as though he is betraying his friend. His friend (your ex) may not be emotionally ready to see his best friend date you.
Either way, I think that if he got involved with you, he may regret the ending of his friendship with your ex.
Good luck. I know it is not what you want to hear, but frankly I am sure he is not the only fish in your sea.
;-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2009): The guys are on the outs. Don't try to take advantage of that time period; you probably haven't.
You are not going with the x anymore. You have a right to go out with anyone you want. BUT I believe that the newly found interest may not pursue you because of his friend OR because he just isn't that interested.
Put the ball in his court. If he doesn't initiate anything, you will have your answer.
Good luck!
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