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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I have known this guy for almost a year now but we've never really been close friends. A couple of months ago we were dancing at a party, it was getting pretty steamy and we ended up making out in front of everyone. I was afraid that it was just the alcohol but he actually called me the next day and came over to my house where we watched tv and kissed some more. We made plans to see each other again but out of nowhere, he said he was really busy with school and never called again. I don't know what happened with that whole situation but we ran into each other at a party again. He was lingering around me and kept putting his arm around me and was trying to dance with me the whole night. My friends said he looked crushed when I was dancing with someone else. I don't understand what he wants from me. He doesn't seem like the player type at all, he's a real nice guy but I don't know, he's really confusing. Does he want to date me or not? He is 22 by the way
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reader, Who +, writes (28 April 2010):
 “I don't understand what he wants from me.”
I’m guessing neither does he.
Young men need some time and experience to figure out what they want, even more time to figure out how to get it. A lot of 22 year old men have not got it all worked out yet. If you want you can try to help him figure it out. Do you know what you want? At least in the short term? Could he figure into your short term wants? If so call him up and tell him you are confused by his actions. Don’t do this in a critical way; just tell him what you want. Keep it simple. If sex enters into what you want only mention this to him in passing, don’t dwell on it or go into any details. Tell him you will give him some time to think about, and tell him if he calls you back and asks you out you will say yes. If you two do go out never bring up the phone call of his earlier, confusing behavior again. Just move forward and see where it goes.
Good luck and hope this helps.
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