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anonymous
writes:i have been with my boyfreind nearly a yr.but the problem is his ex!!!they have a little girl together and he says he never rings or txts the ex any more.but when we first met i find out that he had rang her 43 times in 1 day and when i asked him about this he said it was to speak to the little girl. im not allowed to the exs house when he picks his daughter up. and also she gave him a birthday card and he hid it. please help this is destroying me!!!!!!!!!
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (22 October 2008):
The other answers may well be right but I thought I'd give an alternative.
It's sounds like the Ex is not over him and hates you for "stealing her man" so it could be that he is stuck in the middle.
She threatens to deny access to the kids unless he dumps you... he makes frantic phone calls all day to try and sort things out.
You constantly go on about how she's coming between you and trying to split you up... she sends a card, so he hides it to avoid a scene.
I think you need to remain calm and talk about everything and make it clear you are more hurt by his lies than anything she could do.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2008): THis guy is not honest and open with you. WHy hide a birthday card? Why can you not go near the house of the EX? It is suppose to be and Ex, for goodness sake. He is not being open and honest with you. He does not want to upset the Ex, but he does not want to upset you. This guy not only lacks commitment, he lacks integrity. I will not trust him. Talk to him and see if he is a man and can be honest and admit what is going on or if he is mouse that will run to find a hole to creep in. If you confront him, he might run to the ex, be prepared).
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (22 October 2008):
 Honey! He doesnt sound very commited to you. I hate to say this and I could be wrong but it sounds to me like he still has feelings for the ex.
You could ask him outright, and put him on the spot. Tell him how this is making you feel, and how upset you are.
He may say things that you dont want to hear, so be prapared for that. But at least knowing the truth is better than living a lie.
I really hope I am wrong, and its just that he misses his little girl. Its always a posibility, remember that.
XXX
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