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writes:There is this guy, that I have known for approximately 4 months now. He is a year older than me and is in the same undergraduate program as I am. I met him in an extracurricular club Im a member of and we started out just as friends. He was always really nice and welcoming espcially if I needed help with stuff. But things have changed over the last few weeks. I am quite slow with picking up signals of interest but recently I was talking to another guy and we were laughing about something and he walked over and joined in the conversation and playfully punched me in the stomach and smiled. The other time he was walking down the halway and stopped, spoke to me and while he was talking to me he suddenly put his hand on my shoulder (and kept it there for a while)and gave me this smile (cannot even discribe it) 3. I really like him, as not only is he a great guy but he is always so encouraging and tries to involve me in everything. BUT I do not know what to make of these subtle hints (?) Is this just a way of being friends!?! Any help would be appreciated! Reply to this Question
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reader, Chem123 +, writes (26 April 2009):
Chem123 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for all your help and advice!
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reader, Who  +, writes (22 April 2009):
 Well, I'm not answering the question you asked but that is only because I don't know the answer. I could guess but you are in a much better position to guess than me. Look to see how he behaviors with other people and other available girls. If he gives the same "signals" to everyone, they are not signals. If he only gives them to you and other girls, they are signals.
Sorry I can't be more helpful.
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reader, Chem123 +, writes (22 April 2009):
Chem123 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you! I have just one more question! as per your experience/ knowledge from the "signals" he has been sending my way do you think he is even remotely interested in me!!?! As every time I think someone "likes" me, it always turns out to be false and completely untrue! I know there is no other way to know other than actually asking him but if you could help me out on that one I'd be very grateful! THanks a lot!:D
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reader, Who +, writes (20 April 2009):
"I sent him an email telling him that I liked his photography and asking him about other stuff!"Telling him you admire him and the things he does is good. But every few days say something to him that will leave him thinking of YOU. Two examples of how to do this from movies (although both are a little over the top)1. The Graduate. Mrs. Robinson says to Benjamin: "I want you to know that I'm available to you, and if you won't sleep with me this time I want you to know that you can call me up anytime you want and we'll make some kind of arrangement."2. The Mosquito Coast. Emily Spellgood says to Charlie: "I think about you when I go to the bathroom."In real life, I'm thinking you need to tone it down a bit. But the idea is to say something that gets him wondering if You like HIM, and what he should do about it. Not you wondering about his intentions. Just say something off hand and walk away, giving him a little time to think about it and cause him to make the next move.Hope this helps.
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reader, Chem123 +, writes (19 April 2009):
Chem123 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI other day, I sent him an email telling him that I liked his photography and asking him about other stuff! However, he did not respond and the next day I saw him, he was all nervous and smily! He did not mention anything about the email I sent him!
I am very shy as far as asking guys out is concerned as I have never been in a relationship before and have no clue as to how it works. I am also afraid he will not respond to my email! anyother suggestions!
Thank you!
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reader, Who +, writes (19 April 2009):
"I really like him, as not only is he a great guy but he is always so encouraging and tries to involve me in everything."
I'm going to assume you WANT him to be more than just a friend. So don't fool with trying to figure out if he is hinting or not, get him to be direct. Tell him if he ever asks you out, you will say yes. If you have a hard time saying this, send him an e-mail, text message or leave him a note.
Best of luck.
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