Is he trying to get revenge on me for something I didn't even do?

A female age 36-40, anonymous writes:

is he cheating?i've been with this guy for over 2 years we've been through A LOT. at 18 i got pregnant and he cheated on me ever since theres been lots of problems.were abusive to each other, we dont have any trust in each other, we dont respect each other. Things have gotten worse lately. He broke up with me for a week and during that time I hung out with my neighbor( I am NOT attracted to my neigbor in any way and my bf knows this, we actually made fun of him a lot together) and now he thinks i "cheated on him" had sex with the neighbor.Basically I talked to the neighbor about our(my bf and my) problems because i have no friends and no one to talk to and I just needed some insight and the neighbor even told my bf this.Okay so basically I lied a good bit about things to my bf that happend, I didnt do anything with the neigbor but I lied about hanging out with him and stuff because I knew how my bf would react.The neigbor ended up telling my bf all the things i lied about, my bf already knew i was lieing its not like it was a big surprise but he acts like it.One thing I lied about is hanging out with the neighbor the night my bf called me.My bf called(at the time we were brokenup) and we talked for awhile the neigbor texted me and asked if i wanted to hang out I wasnt going to but then my bf started saying mean things to me and acting like he didnt care if we got back together so i got mad and turned my phone off and went over to the neighbors.My bf is upset that I hung the phone up on him to go hang out with neighbor I understand that and I understand that hes upset that I lied to him about things but I couldnt tell him because he would assume I was cheating on him and not even give me a chance to explain. I dont feel like I did anything wrong really, I mean he brokeup with me so I can hang out with whoever i want, I didnt even touch the neigbor we just talked about my bf most of the time.I know I shouldnt have lied but like I said I couldnt have told him the truth because he would have done something really stupid.Now were together and he says he doesnt care anymore about us, he acts all distant, he isnt lovey-dovey anymore, he'll talk about stories that his dad says like "When I brokeup with my first love I went out and had sex with every girl I could" he went on myspace and said "I wonder what you can see on my friends myspace" like hes hiding something on there(they share the myspace and its set to private) he'll call another girl hott in front of me and he never did that before,he seems to want sex more often, is cheating on me? to get revenge or something because he thinks I did something?I know he does love me for a fact, maybe hes just hurt that I lied to him and he doesnt know how to handle it right now but I do NOT want to stay with him if hes cheating I rather move on with my life then deal with him cheating on me again because I can not handle it again and I just dont feel like its worth staying with him if this is happening again.

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