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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I have been seeing this guy for a while, not regular contact but we talk and have met often. Only thing is we always end up at each others houses on the evenings - I haven't slept with him and won't until I'm ready too.However we've had the discussion of where its going, he has recently come out of a long term relationship but told me he likes me - I said I would like more but just to see how things go.The thing is he is awful at texting and we can go days without talking, we've not really been out on a date or anything. Am I wasting my time and does he just want to sex?!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2011): Hey there. If you don't want to become another notch on a guy's bedpost, I'd put a stop to all the late night hang outs and your acceptance of his inconsistent contact. You may not be having sex but this tells him you aren't the type of girl he has to date to get anywhere with and that you'll eventually give in to being his sex buddy. Once you settle for crumbs, like accepting last minute invites and casual hang outs, it tells a guy everything he needs to know about you..you like him too much and you have low self esteem. There is still a chance he could reverse his opinion of you (if you've done no more than just kiss him so far) and that's if you do no contact and not respond to him until he asks you out in advance to take you out somewhere. Show him you have some respect for yourself and don't settle for less than a proper date. If a proper date isn't something you can even make as a standard, then yeah, you'll always be the booty call. It doesn't matter if you are holding back intercourse, oral still makes you a sex buddy and it takes away all the anxiety of getting some girl pregnant he doesn't want to be with in the first place.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2011): If he's not in regular contact and he is rebounding, yes you are the interim girl at best but most likely a potential sex buddy. He probably already has a few or he'd be coming onto you more aggressively.
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