A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Ok here is the story...I met this guy on holiday in Turkey. He lives there and was a barman in my hotel. He is 18 and I am 16. So there isn't a large age gap. He constantly flirted with me and kept tryin to get me to go walks and kiss me. I wasn't sure what he was looking for so I didn't go further than a peck on the lips. Now I'm back we still keep in touch and he tells me he loves me, he misses me and he wants me to return. Is he just after a sexual relationship like the stereotypical turkish guy?Advice Please :(Thanks :Dxxxxxx
View related questions:
flirt, on holiday Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, fallen-imperfection +, writes (11 February 2010):
Hi... I'm dating a Turkish guy, and he is the most amazing guy in the world. But I would say be wary because he's a barman, and barman dont really tend to be that trustworthy, esp in Turkey. Also, if he's already saying he loves you, how long has it been?
I don't like to stereotype, especially because i know a couple of really genuine turks out there(im dating one), but I also know that they are very few. and I know that there are barmen who will tell you anything, to get you to fall for them.
Just stay strong-minded xx
A
male
reader, silenceofdestiny  +, writes (20 June 2009):
Love doesnt pop up right away hun. You are still young and you have a future waiting. Sadly a good relationship takes years to built. If you make decision that fast it will harm u badly. I've heard alot sad stories about Turkish UK relationships thats why i become a member on this website. Culturel diffferences + educational differences will effect relationships alot. In Turkey if someone started working that early age means he didnt get proper education yet and not a member of wealthy family. Most of people i know that can manage international relationship are well educated people and they can adapt foreign cultures fast. I just want to warn you so u can take things slower and i hope you make the right choice. At least ask him if he can wait for your education to end (llike 4 years maybe) if he truly loves u he will wait :)
...............................
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2008): This is from a Turkish guy:),
not all the Turkish guys are like that except these in summer places etc. So just forget him...
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for that advice :)xxxx
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2008): at first instinct doesnt seem genuine to me, i mean ypu must have heard the stories if you know what a stereotypical turkish guy's like and i think if you think about it what makes this guy any different. Any guy can tell you he loves you uh uh i dont think so, i mean if he loved you he would not keep trying to persue you he would respect your wishes- you see like you said the stereotypical turkish guy these people are SO used to meeting british girls on holiday every day this is so regular for them they probably are just used to using young girls a bit i dont think they're bad guys just probs dont realise theyre doing anything wrong he obviously hasn't considered you live in britain and it's your homw just like he's turkish and it's his home even a guy who geuninely loved you probably wouldnt beg you to leave your home.
also my mum has had LOADS of experiences like this when she was young she even told me my sis bout this time where she gave a guy a blow job and he was like waiting for her at the airport cringe lol (but that's an extreme case :D) trust me listen to your instincts you know babes lol you'll get over him xxxx
...............................
|
