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writes:I am in a long distance relationship 5 years now. I met my boyfriend -who is in the US army- when both of us were on vacation. I had about 7 days left before I return home and he had 5. We connected right away, we started seeing each other everyday of the remaining vacation days and we spent the whole day together talking, walking, joking until we got tired and each one went back to his place to rest a bit. Before we returned home -we live in 2 differnt countries- he asked me to keep in touch and to go visit him. It's a 2 hour flight between us. He never came to see me. He says he needs a permission from the army. Until now I am the one travelling.. He is divorced and has two grown up kids and I know he has lots of expenses. He offered to pay for my ticket once, I told him he doesn't have to and he never asked me again, which is fine. He got upset three years ago and almost broke up with me, he even suddenly stopped responding to my emails for over a month after I asked him -jokingly- who is going to pay for the next flight ticket as a reply to his request to visit him more.We spoke about marriage early in our relationship. He used to email me more often, he used to keep me updated with his off-line schedule, he used to text message me and call me everyday sometimes 2-3 calls until he was deployed first for few months and then for a year and the year turned now into almost forever. I continued to visit him whenever he had time off, but this year I didn't see him at all. He came home, phoned me once and that's it. He says I can't call him back on his working cell phone although I used to call him on this cell phone before. He doesn't tell me for how long we will stay apart. All what he says is to keep emailing him, he likes my emails.I don't get anything from him not even a birthday wish per email. He says he is bad in remembering birthdays. End of October it was our anniversary, I emailed him and he replied back wishing me happy halloween instead. I really love him and I'm completely loyal to him, but now I am not understanding what's going on? I don't doubt when he says he loves me or that he misses me. But I can't cope with this waiting situation anymore? Is he putting me on hold? Is he playing with my heart? What do I do? I am sorry to sound naive like this but I am confused.
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reader, Mrs. T  +, writes (21 November 2007):
I felt like I was the author of this looking on the internet to find out why I feel the way I do I see that someone been in the Game way to long for me to even sit and wait on this man.September 25, 2006 I thought I met the man I wanted to be with once again. I met a truck driver given me a Alias from the start I should of been out from the gate But he told me his name was TELEVAR being a truck driver I thought I had the opportunity with this man to see the world after spending the first night we met together than going to visit with him 350 miles away from home a month later it felt natural to think we we're soulmates.It's been 14 months since I seen him, 100 or more text message's including piture's and too many I love u's and I miss you over the phone.I thought I had what it took to be in a long distant relationship but the last time he made the trip that was 600 miles away from me he thought I was to spend the money making the trip and HELL NO. A man if he wants to be with you will make sure you make it to where he's at.Thats old fashion but anything longterm or working toward marriage a man is surpose to take care of his women.Stringing me along for a year has been an emotional rollercoaster. My emotions over the phone is wounded.Please believe that if this man show up correct I will let the world know. That I was wrong he really did love me. So till than I'm getting over my LDR.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2007): He is giving you nothing, do NOT sit and wait for this man. Start getting busy, don't send him any more e-mails or ask him any more questions about anything, he has got some nerve not breaking up with you and stringing you along like this. All the signs are there, it is over, he may have even found another girl or two for a long distance booty call...This guy doesn't really care for you, don't beat yourself up about it, long distance relationships rarely work unless you soon get together in the same location....Move on!
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