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writes: my boyfriend says he loves me, yet i have teh feelings he still loves his ex more than me. i mean i did find her pictures in his e mail even though he's been with me now. i dun't know what if he's lying and he actually still loves her. how can i tell, are there sgins i should look out for. i really like him and i just think he's faking it. i mean he was telling me how much he liked me when he was dating his ex now that they broke up he asked me out again. i sorta feel like he doesn't like me and i'm just a last resort.plus she's way better looking than me i mean she's model pretty where i'm the avverage girl no guy notices in class.
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reader, Dazzerg  +, writes (1 April 2006):
 I say this quite alot and I shouldn't but it is a valid point - her picture being in his e-mail could be bad housekeeping, in and of itself it doesn't mean alot.
Rather, if you are determined to pursue this line of thought, I would be looking for recent contact and what the content of that contact is. It is possible they have stayed friends and that is OK as long as it doesnt cross any lines, obviously. I would proceed with a little caution though because it seems to me possible that you are feeling insecure in the relationship and that maybe the source of these concerns.
You have to remember he has chosen to be with you. Also, you have to stick to established facts, as mentioned above. Don't let these concerns undermine what you have and try and enjoy it. Hope that helps.
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reader, smeedle +, writes (1 April 2006):
 Stop this worship of this other girl, you put yourself down by comparing yourself to her.
Looks are superficial and anyone will tell you that, it seems like your bloke saw you, liked what he saw and so the relationship with you started.
Of course he will still have some sort of feelings for his ex, we do not just turn off feelings because we are not with that person anymore, but it is more than likely not love he feels for her.
If you do not get a grip on your emotions and start to trust the realaionship you are in, you really do risk loosing it and he could end up back with her.
If he did not want to be with you he would dump you and go back to her so im assuming he really does like you and not her.
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