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writes:hello all, thanks in advance for ur help... I have a question related to sex... Me and my boyfriend have never had sex, we have only had orals, and blow job and fingerings... We have our intimate times, we would be kissing and all that stuff, and he would be very romantic, and get erectic, i would give him a blow job, and when he's done, he goes back to normal, talking about normal daily stuff, and routines... Is that normal... I hate that he does that, i heard it was a normal guy thing... but i hate it that we would be in a romantic mood, he finishes and he stops doing whatever we were doing... What should i do here? i want to tell him that after he cums to still all cuddly and kissy? will he understand? is he selfish? how do i approach this topic, I don't want to sound any pushy or needy, but it irritates me! like i have my own needs too! plz help me on what i should do, thx!!
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reader, Jayjay24  +, writes (24 August 2012):
 Same happened for me. I don't want boys like that. Honesty I agree with honeypie. Make him fulfill your needs before his. Like I did with my friend w/ benefits, tell him to make you happy before you please him. Not say you do that every time but occasionally tell him this. Makes his AND your sex life better.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (10 August 2012):
 He can't ready you mind, so yes, you will have to tell him.
And stop fulfilling his needs first... let him work for it.
I had a BF who would actually go to sleep moments after he orgasmed without fail. Very exiting... not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2012): I would personally tell him straight "you want pleasure? Well do you think I'm a robot?!? It doesn't satisfy me pleasuring you and getting nothing back, if you want something then earn it!" Not in a annoyed tone but light heartedly as really it's not like you're in the 18-21 age bracket and he's just learning, he's old enough to realise that there is a balance of giving and receiving.
I wouldn't let it carry on as its really quite a selfish attitude to think, got what I wanted - go back to normal. Next time things lead that way, tell him you want to be first.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2012): Take it from me don't go near to his mr until u have reached ur climax because as soon as u did what he wanted it will be over wear as if he didn't he will continue foreplay until he gets what he wants I'm talking to u because I have the same problem and its frustrating!
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