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writes:This is quite a lengthy question, I've condensed it to the most relevant details! Thank you too anyone who reads it and answers!I'm 17 and my ex boyfriend is 19. He is in the RAF and so works far away, about 160 miles away from me. We started dating last november and split up in feburary. When we were dating he would come back every weekend to see me, as time went on I still felt I didn't know him as well as I should. And he was finding the distance to difficult to cope with. So we split up and I explained that I just felt like we were 'fuck buddies' as such, we did go out places and talked loads but for me it just felt like we were 'fuck buddies' After we split up he stayed in touch always texting me. We didn't see each other again until april when he had 2 weeks leave. He rang me up and invited me to the pub which i agreed to, he didn't tell me he was there with his family celebrating his brothers 18th, the time we spent together that night was amazing, it was like we were going back out, laughing with each other and just generally having a good time. After this night we didn;t meet up again for about a week, and barely talked, I;m not sure why. Then the following sunday he was out with friends, got rather drunk and rang me 16 times at 1am, I got worried so rang him back, he came round and blurted his heart out to me. He knew how I felt about having a boyfriend, (that I didn't want one atm) and he got very upset when I reminded him of this. Again after this night we didn't talk much and only saw each other once more before he went back to the RAF. I don't know why this happened either. After returning to the RAF we spoke a lot less. And we didn't see each other again until the middle of June, he'd got in touch with me before he was due to come back but I ignored him, so when he got back he tried every way possible to get in touch with me. So i eventually meet him and he stays over mine, we begin to have sex but it gets too much for me, so I ask him 'Are exs meant to do this?' He said 'No there not' so I say 'why are we doing it then?' He said 'because we want to'. We stop anyway and talk a bit and then we start again, again it gets too much for me so I stop it and we talk over it all again and whilst talking this song (Flamboyant bella- breakaway) comes on and it makes us both go silent and just lay in each others arms listening to the song we both have tears in our eyes and just hold each other tight. The next morning we don't discuss anything that happened during the night. We arranged to meet up on sunday before he went back, after I finished work i was to go round his, so I do only to find he left early in the morning, I'm not sure why he did this at all, was he scared? We havent talked at all since he went back. And I've realised I miss him etc. So text him telling him so. He replies 'you don't want a guy like me, I'm away all the time. you want someone closer yeah? xxx'i reply 'I prefer the distance, absence makes the heart grow fonder so they say! x' he replies 'lol i suppose. I'm off to afghan next year and couldnt leave someone i love behind xxx'i reply 'well what do u feel? x' he said 'it would never work with the distance. doesn't matter if we like each other or notbut we'd hardly see each other. xxx'He's back in august for 3 weeks.I don't know how to take anything he has said! As each time we met each other since we split up he would run away as soon as he could. Does he still like me but is scared of the distance?Or is he trying to let me down gently?
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reader, Chelle.x +, writes (20 July 2009):
 No Guy' say how they really feel and that's what gets to me because it's like they love up there damn pride that they won't open up. Tell Him That B, Jus Sayy "Look uno how I feel about you and im willing to give it ago if you are. Yeah the distance is gonna be hard, but if we like eachother enough we will get through it." Im sure you do miss him hun, distance is kinda hard at times. I jus broke up with the boy I was seeing because he lived in London and I live in Ipswich.. Thing is, he cudn't handle the distance. Like he wasn't really making an effort to see me. But that might not be the case for you. Jus open up to him and tell him exactly how you feel.
When he comes back on the 7th tell him you need to see him or something and see how it goes.
I hope it works out for you babe.
Keep me informed (:
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you :) I just don't know what to do with him! He's not the kind of guy to come out right and say his feelings. I don't want to have a relationship with him if he is always going to be worried about the distance, because then he's not truely happy?
I do miss him an awful lot, but maybe for him it would be better if we don't talk or anything? He comes back august 7th for 3 weeks so maybe then we might sort it all out. I'm just scared he will run away again and I'll be left here not knowing what to think! x
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reader, Chelle.x +, writes (19 July 2009):
Tbh babess i think he's scared of the distance thing because if he was trying to let you down gently then why is he still sleeping with you ? Maybe he thinks that you will find someone else because he's away so much ? Just talk to him and tell him you really don't mind the distance and that he can trust you not to move to anyone else. Let him know that you'll always be there for him. Let me know how you get on (: x
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