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*adeybaby
writes:HeyaMy boyfriend of 3 months broke up with me on Sunday.He's 23 going on 24 and I'm 16 years of age.Anyways, he broke up with me because he had got back with his ex girlfriend.He was with her for 2 and a half years. But then a few months ago he met me. We really hit it off. We clicked. So he left his girlfriend to be with me. Thing is, at the time his girlfriend was 6-7 months pregnant with his child. Him and his girlfriend had been on the rocks for the past year before he met me. She had cheared on her twice with his best friend. They stopped having sex with each other 5 months before they split up. They didn't sleep in the same bed, didn't kiss, and rarely spoke. He said it was just asif they were friends, not lovers. So when me and him got together I was asking him if he thought leaving her was the best thing to do as she's pregnant. He said yes as he wasn't happy. Didn't love her. That he loved me, that I was perfect for him, and that me and him would be together forever. Our realtionship was great. Rarely argued or fell out. Could talk to each other about anything. Planned on moving in with each other. I was so happy, in love. We both were in bliss. But last weekend, I went away with my mum just for a weekend shopping in Manchester. We had been texting each other all day, saying how much we loved and missed each other etc. In the hotel room there was a computer you could use, so when I told him he was so excited that I could go on msn to him that night. So I text him at 10ish at night telling him I was on msn waiting for him. He said he would be on in a minute, and that he was just getting in the shower. I waited till midnight. He never came on. I text him saying I was going bed etc that I love him, and I really opened my feelings to him, telling him that he had my heart and that I would do anything for him. I fell asleep as I had no reply.The next morning I woke up at 9. I looked at my mobile straight away, and I saw I had a message, I was so excited, as I knew it was going to be off him. And I wanted to see what he thought of my feelings towards him. Then I read the text and my heart sank. It said this 'Well theres no way of outting it but we can never be a couple hun im sorry but me and my ex are back together. Im very sorry I didnt know we would get back.' I cried and cried. He meant the world to me, and he hurt me like that, after all the things he said to me. Me and you together forever etc. How could he do that? Thing is, I understand he's back with his ex, more than likely for the baby's sake. But still, why hurt me like that? Why lead me on? I didn't talk to him for a few days, then I decided as I do still love him, and I didn't want me and him ending on a bad note. That I would send him a text telling him that I don't want to talk to him again, that I wish him and his girl friend the best of luck together etc...Then after I sent it, less than 5 minutes later he came on msn. And started talking to me as if I'm his best friend kind of thing. Asid he never got the message, so I asked him if he had recieved it, he said yes. So why did he carry on talking to me? He must have know I was hurting. As the thought of him and any girl kills me inside. Then yesterday on msn, he was calling me his baby girl, calling me sexy, kept on saying 'mwah' and giving me loads of 'xxxx' and saying I was perfection. I don't understand? Whys he doing this? Is he struggling to let go of me? Playing me? I really don't know. I'm so confused...
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reader, Teacake  +, writes (16 November 2008):
 Tell him its really too bad but he can't have everything he wants. He has someone else and he is a father, so he better grow up fast and take care of his family. You are too good for him!
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reader, jadeybaby +, writes (16 November 2008):
jadeybaby is verified as being by the original poster of the question hey
thanks for all your help
thing is all week hes been texting me, talking to me on msn etc telling me how much he loves me and misses me. and that me and him should lose complete contact as its too hard us talking anymore because he is struggling to forget/let go of me,
what should i do?
this is what he said to me last night on msn
"im being nice now sayin we shudna speak again as ur findin it hard etc forgettin bout me, i am finding it hard to and it dunna help us keep speakin does it? being on here dunna help me head out as i canna ever forget bout u fkin hurts but ive gotta live with it. and the thing is i dont want ever forget bout u i still love u fkin mad as hell thts why tis better for me go."
what he said like hurt but made me happy?
because he still loves me?
what do you think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2008): well my dear, i believe he is confused, and as the ex is pregnant chances are that things between them will last longer. he went back to her because somehow he likes her. i advice you to move on.
i was in the same situation, i did everything i could to have him back but it didnt work. one day i decided to move on, only 5 years later they broke up for good. now he wants me back but i dont love him no more.
you should talk to him to see if its worth trying to have him back.
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reader, Teacake +, writes (13 November 2008):
He is only 24 and that is very young to be a father these days. He isn't trying to hurt your feelings. He is a man with an ego and doesn't want to fact the responsibility of being a father at such a young age.
You need to leave him alone! There is a baby on the way and you haven't known him that long. Save yourself a lot of heart break and find a cute scottish boy! They are the best actually.
I can tell you from experience that when men go back to the ex, they will never give their heart to you. Boys and men these days are not happy unless they have more than one woman or girl.
Its up to us gals to teach them better and not inflate their ego when they have someone other than you. No guy deserves more than one woman! But those scottish boys are worth looking into. But they too are sure to break your heart.
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