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writes:I have been with the same guy for 9 months and he has a very busy life. I have told him since the beginning that i was fine with how much he works and that we can still have a good relationship even when theres times when we hardly see each other. But lately he has gotten an even heavier work load and he seems a little distant and when i asked him the other day if it was just work that was keeping us apart or if maybe it was me he replied with "I am fine and i know that right now i dont have time for you." I said that thats ok as long as he still wants us. And he said that of course he wants to be with me but i still feel like maybe he just doesn't want to tell me that he doesnt want to be with me or that hes scared to hurt me. I don't know if he was being sincere or not. Reply to this Question
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reader, TygersDream  +, writes (10 February 2007):
 Well, if he really is busy at work all the time, it's giong to be hard to sit him down and have a serious discussion about this without him groaning and getting upset.
Ask him if there's a good time/weekend when the both of you can just get away somewhere. Maybe you should do some research so that the burden of having to arrange everything is lifted off of him and he can genuinely enjoy the long weekend. Alternatively, maybe you both can stay at home and you can help him relax with a massage or something nice.
On the other hand, if he is too busy to take care of YOUR needs then maybe you'll just have to call it quits. It's not just up to HIM to call the shots about your relationship, it's also up to YOU what yuou want.
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