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writes:I have been dating a man for 4 1/2 years. Over the past year we have become disconnected due to his work schedule (over 50 hours a week), going to school to get his MBA, and National Guard. We also live approximately 1 hour from each other. He has 3 months left in school but has decided that he cannot give me what I need and he wants time to himself when he gets out of school since he has had no time to himself over the last year. He says that he cannot commit to anything until he gets his life back. While I understand his situation, I was willing to wait for him. He stated that he could not ask me to do that since he was not sure of anything. When he told me all this, I was upset and hopeful that we can work things out. I miss him but want things to work out with him. What are your suggestions on how to proceed and whether you think he is overwhelmed and needs time to himself? Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (21 January 2011):
 Over 50 hours a week would be stressful to anyone and i think he probably just needs some space and some 'me time'. Although i understand that this is leaving you feeling hurt i think the best thing to do is to not contact him until he is finished with his studies in 3 months. If he contacts you then fair enough thats good. But he is probably just stressed to the limit at the moment therefore i think you should just give him space.
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