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anonymous
writes:i know this guy, we go to the same university and basically we met each other for the first time a couple of weeks ago and he gave me his number. so i text him on the same day and he was like yes just let me know when you are free we will do something etcsince thn i text him a week later because it was areligious festival so i wished him well etc and his last text since was "don't be a stranger, keep in touch"since then we havent texted, i have seen him twice when im walking to university but i dont think he has seen me..maybe once but he hasnt approached me.i really want to see him again but i don't want to make all the effort what should i do to let him know i am still interested but he needs to make a bit more effort! is he worth it or should i hang on?!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2008): Maybe you are reading too much into his response he may just be looking for a friend
You have a strange way of looking at relationships if the post is a transcript of your exact words...
"I really want to see him again but I don't want to make all the effort what should I do to let him know I am still interested but he needs to make a bit more effort! is he worth it or should I hang on?!!"
There is to much 'me' about your approach 5 x you refer to I what you she be asking is 'Does he like me' To answer the question 'is He worth it' even though I don't know him Yes... He is human and has feelings
as for "should I hang" on it is a very mercenary question and one for you alone to answer... I suppose it depends on how much you like this guy and what you want out of the relationship... It does however lead one to ask questions of the way your experiences of love and relationships have formulated your approach to them.
but my simple answer would be "well don't let my repost stop you
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2008): You don't tell how you met, whether you are freshers or returning students or the significance of the religious festival and whether it is inter or cross cultural.
So if you are both freshers university is a time when you meet lots of different people (especially in the first weeks) and you make some friends and a lot of acquaintance as you get to know people of both sexes and varying backgrounds.
Overall You need to give yourself time to get to know this guy, you hardly know him at all, he clearly doesn't move as fast as you, you need slow down and engage with him socially, take him up on his original offer suggest something sport swimming interest film club society or drink or pizza anything really, just don't be too keen as the guy may just be being friendly
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