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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:hi there i need help, am now in a foreign country studying where i meet this other boy also from my country studying,we fall in love with each other,that we we sometimes talk of getting married but there is a HUGE problem.he explained to me that before he come to study he was going out with this other girl but they were having problems until he wanted to break up with her but be4 he did that he realize that the girl was pregnant for him,he accept the pregnant and the girlfriend give birth to a baby girl and his family were/are so supportive of her, he left my county for studies while the baby was 3 months old, and now when i ask him of what he is gonna do, he says he will still break up with the girl when we go back home and take responsibility of his baby, i dont know how truth is this because right now they are still communicating and the girl always go to visit his family,brothers and sister for months or 2 and when i beg him to listen to their conversation he doesnt allow me to, does this boy really loves me or he just want to play with me? help me please! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2008): Sorry to be blunt, sweetie.. but eventually your guy would have to make up his mind between you and the mother of his child. I suggest you give him space and accept the possibility that he may succumb to family pressure or he may in fact have loved this girl and that love may be revived once he sees her again and their child. On the other hand, given that space and the chance for him to see the other girl and his child, he may realize also that it is you he loves more and will be willing to close that other chapter in his life. This is a difficult choice, but if he is true to his heart, then he will find the answer that will make him happy.
It will be far more difficult for you to go on a guessing game with him, so I suggest you ask him to be honest enough to you to admit where he stands on all these. He may also be confused about the situation. Oftentimes, space and time are the only factors that can determine the outcome of a relationship.
I've often tried and found to be true, the saying, "Let him go, if he's meant for you, he'll find his way back."
I hope you'll find answers to your questions, if not from this post or this forum, from your guy and from deep within you.
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