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writes: Q: I am dating a guy for over 2 months. We have already spoken of marriage which will happen in 1-1 1/2 years time. He is very jealous of me because I am a very friendly person and I do make alot of male friends. So he tends to leave trademarks on me so let everyone know that I am taken. But I cannot cause his family doesn't know of me as yet. Yet my family does.People say that if a guy does that its an indication that he is leaving his options open.What do I do?
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reader, snowbird  +, writes (4 September 2006):
 Yes, he could be insecure, but how come you say you are about to get married- you have only known him for 2 months! Not enough time to really know him, you are still at the 'walking-on-eggshells', romantic stage, and putting 'trade-marks on you - what are you - a posession?!
One thing to watch out for - he could be a bit of a control freak, I'm not saying for certain, but just watch, wait, and take your time on this - it's far too important to ignore, and love can cloud your judgement. Make good and sure you know his faults as well as his perfections - and don't rush into things.. get to know his family, and get a rounded view of his personality before you make any decision which will affect your future. Take care, and have a good and happy future!
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reader, Turgo +, writes (4 September 2006):
He sounds like he doesnt want to loose you. But at the same time somewhere in his subconscious he may not trust you, or the people you choose as friends. Jealous Is normal, but its how the person goes about it, and how sevier. It depends of the person. I would sit him down and talk to him about it. Its a bad problem that need to be changed. I would recoment him to some kind of therapy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2006): Well you have only been dating two months. My reckoning is that he is possibly feeling a little insecure about the whole relationship, that's why he is leaving his trade marks on you. Also, you say that you have a lot of male friends who he feels jealous about, that it itself is a major sign of his insecurity.It's also a natural feeling if you really care for a person,you value that person and are scared of losing them. It's still early days yet and it takes a while to build trust in a relationship, especially if someone else has hurt/two timed or even dumped on him in the past.If you really care about this guy then give your relationship time to grow and develop trust. I'm sure that when he trusts you 100% then in time you will get to meet his family.Just take things slowly, talk lots and tell him how much you care for him.
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reader, Ponungalungb  +, writes (4 September 2006):
 What kind of trademarks . . . hickeys? He sounds too immature to be in a relationship. Dump him.
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