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writes:So this is the deal. Me and my boyfriend are in our early twenties and we've been dating for two years. We are each others best friends, but lately something’s changed. We used to work together but he didn't make a lot of money soo.. He's gotten a new job so we can move in together. But now that he's gotten this new job, he's always tired all the time. He's super moody where he acts like I'm bothering him, but if I get up to leave, he'll tell me to stay. But that's not the only thing. He's a little tight on money (he won't get a real paycheck until a week or so) so I give him like $40 to help him out with stuff he wants (usually beer) AND I even pick him up from work everday because he doesn't have a ride.. but whenever I need him to help me out (go with him to get my Mom's birthday present) he bitches and complains that he doesn't want to - even though I need him to take me! I don't understand. Is he being a total narcissistic asshole or should I give him a break because he's gotten a new job? Am I being used? I know he loves me.. but is this relationship really healthy for the both of us at this point?ANY comments would help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2009): Ah yes. He must hate his job. It must feel to him as if he is being delivered to purgatory every day. And YOU are the deliverer! lol. Plus before, he had you in the workplace to make it more bearable. You two shared every stress and could not really justify blaming each other of not understanding. Now he can, because you are not there.
Maybe he will become accustomed to the change, but I would say working together, and dating for 2 years, and then switching to living together, and NOT working together, is a big switch. Its a different dynamic altogether. I'd say you help and support him in finding a happier situation, it is vital to the relationship.
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