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writes:Is he into me or not ? I really like a guy but I’m not sure about his actions. We have never had a conversation and I don’t even know his name. I wanted to initiate but he rarely shows up at the class so I stopped thinking about it but one of my friend insists that he might be irregular but he looks at me a lot when he comes . I have caught him looking at me as well but he looks away immediately. His friend came up with a silly excuse to talk to me and get to know me and I thought maybe he is trying to get in touch through his friend but he literally ran away when we all were leaving the class together . I don’t know what to do! I do like him but don’t want to come off as desp and I’m not even sure what his behaviour means ! His friend doesn’t attend the classes anymore so I can’t even ask him.What should I do ? Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (9 October 2017):
 How can you like someone who you have never spoken to and don't know their name?
Honestly you either pluck up the courage to talk to him or else you leave it be and learn if you want to get to know someone then don't do it through there friend but talk to them. I highly doubt a guy in their mid 20s is going to use his friend to get a date.
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reader, N91 +, writes (8 October 2017):
 Being in your age bracket I'd of thought you would be past juvenile signs of thinking looking at each other means attraction.
SPEAK TO HIM, find out that way. Leave the schoolyard stuff behind.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2017): BTW, he was probably hoping you'd like his friend instead. That may have been the guy who was really interested; but you ignored him. The guy who makes the effort got ignored; and the guy who isn't interested is the guy you want.
Maybe he never came back to class; because he got up the nerve to approach you; but you embarrassed him by trying to use him to get to his disinterested buddy!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2017): I don't think he's into you; I think you're into him.
I don't recommend wasting a lot of feelings, time, and energy on grown-men who don't have the nuggets to show you they like you. If you initiate all the moves, and get no reaction to it; expect the feeling you're always doing all the work.
How do you "catch" someone looking at you? Eyes can meet by coincidence. It seems you're crushing and building a case to convince yourself he likes you. Unfortunately, you have no real evidence. Only one who can really validate the fact he likes you, is he himself. He's doing a terrible job at it!
To be honest, you haven't really described any behavior on his part to indicate he has any interest. When you look at him he looks away. His friend might be the one who likes you. At least he made the effort to get to know you.
My advice. Ignore him and focus on your studies.
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