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writes: I'm in a longterm relationship but he will never show me his phone. I am beginning to think he is hiding something. I'm worried this will affect our relationship. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2005): Showing someone your phone is today's version of getting just a bit naked...it's all about trust and commitment to the relationship. If you've been dating this guy for a while and he won't share simple things like letting you get a peek at his PDA, phone or blackberry, it could be that he's got numbers and names on there he really doesn't want you to see. On the other hand, he might just think, like using the toilet with the door open, that his posessions are private.
I have an entire chapter devoted to danger signs in dating in the brand-new, just-about-the-hit-the-shelves EVERYTHING DATING BOOK 2nd Edition (Adams Media, December, 2005) by Alison Blackman Dunham. You will find lots of tips about literally "everything" you are going to find in a modern dating journey in this new book. You can get copies through http://www.advicesisters.net and http://www.advicesisters.com or wait until December and get it at your favorite bookstore.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2005): I'd tell him straight. he's either willing to show you his fone and prove he's not hiding something or tell him you can't take his secrecy anymore as its not fair on you and makes you feel insecure especially when he neglects to let you know it's nothing - so its over!
i'd move on and find myself someone who doesnt appear to be secretive
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (11 November 2005):
 Well he's definitely hiding something from you but whether it's something you need to be concerned about is unknown. Have you asked him why his phone is off limits? It may be because of something very inconsequential or it might be something very very seriously damaging to your relationship. You need to ask him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2005): I guess he IS hiding something if he will never show you his phone! If this is important to you, call him on it, and have it out with him. You have the right to know he is being faithful to you, and loyal to you. If that doesn't work for him, then you should be finding another guy. Its both that simple, and that hard to do. Good Luck.
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