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anonymous
writes:wealthy small town farmer and acclaimed player whom everyone told me to stay away from chased me 4 a couple months but was negative to him Because of his rep that whole time, I am 40 he is 48 never been married, finally gave in and the last 3 wks we have a lot of fun 2gether. we talk about everything, he takes me out to eat, takes me w/runnin errands, takes me shopping buying me a tank top to ride on his bike, said if I really like it will "garb" me up, asks my opinion on a lot of things, asks how my day was, what I did, how I am, do I need anything, when I am @ his house, always asks if he could make me anything to eat, do I need a snack, something to drink etc. he likes me to sleep over and is VERY snuggly, kisses, heavy "pettin" has happened but not 4 awhile, says he doesn't wanna have sex as it will change things slowly and eventually, and afraid to get me prego, (told him my tubes have been tied for 15yrs) says it could still happen and he has heard that b4 and now has 8yr old daughter, says wants to "proceed w/caution" and take the time 2 get 2 know me and figure me out. I have met his daughter and sis/family on the 4th of July, wanted me 2 watch fireworks w/them. introduced me as "friend" and when I teased him he asked what I wanted him to call me, we have never really discussed what we are, but I feel he is very insecure about my "intentions" as he has been told a lot of BS from other gals Because of $. I truly like him for him, I have my own money, house, job, no debt, and have bought him lunch/supper, cocktails, told him how I feel etc. he has made a lot of little comments here and there that seem 2 question my liking of him. he never texts me 1st much, he likes it when I say hi thruout the day etc, he almost always asks ahead of time to come over, go do something etc. he tells me all about his day, what he did did, has talked to me about his family, shown me where he grew up, his fields, talks to me about his daughter all the time (sees her 2x a month) he's just not good about txtn 1st, making himself clear, he thinks I am s'pose 2 b able 2 read his mind. I don't wanna push anything on him. do ya think he actually likes me or just a darn good player? I see something in him, I truly do, and have told him. what should I do or not do or keep doing?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you very much for your thoughts! i just feel someone is inside him screamin to come out. i saw him tues nite after our "issue" (bringing up what the ex said & pissing him off)i asked how his day was going & he said good, txt him that nite & told him hope he is havin a good nite, and he said guess its gettin a little late for ice cream? maybe 2morro? when i went over, we chatted away like b4, snuggled and cuddled, but he never kissed me. did tell him the other day he could txt me 1st for a change, would be nice to know if he was thinking of me, and by golly he did! txt me right away & said good morning, but i totally blew him off after i said it bak, & he txt me last nite and asked if i wanted to do something 2nite, said sure. blew him off again & he txt me right away this mornin again & askd if 5:30 would work, i said u bet. sooo blowing him off a bit like u said is making him think! thanks!! gonna take it day by day
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reader, suzysunshine +, writes (11 July 2012):
In my opinion, yes he does really like you and he is showing you by allowing the relationship to naturally progress. During the petting does he become aroused? He has introduced you to family and friends. . You can text him. Whenever.....He likes to be pursued from what you are saying. I would pursue him for a couple months then stop. It will be his turn to pursue you, He will pursue you worrying he will lose you. I guess just go along for a bit and then let him know you will not wait forever. At that point he will decide what you will be in his life. By then, you will determine if you want him. So, relax. The relationship need not be defined yet. Let the chemistry work for you. You want him to be with you b/c he loves you not b/c you are a habit. Good Luck to you and my hope is you have a guy that is falling inlove with you!
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