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writes: I need help on an issue My ex boyfriend who we've been apart for a month and together for about a year and a half broke up. we've said to each other that we miss each other but we dont know if we love each other anymore as this break up has been hard on the both of us. Although, he has been flirtin with his ex and he always has people over almost every night, he is always drunk ever since we broke up. Is he trying to avoid thinking about me? and feeling lonely or has he really moved on? i dont know how i feel anymore in the same respect because he's broken my heart over ths relationship and im not sure if i could bring myself to be with him again. i do miss him alot though.
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reader, Jinxes +, writes (20 November 2006):
I ask myself the same question with my ex. He drinks all the time too. Deep in my heart I know it's because he loves me and is having a hard time handling our parting of ways. I love and miss him too. There are other issues between me and my ex though. So if you wonder if there is another chance and even miss him. Talk to him. Be honest. A lot of times I had anger or other emotions that covered the love I had for my ex. Just look deep down and see if you have that love for him yet. Or let go. Oh! as for flirting with his ex. I am sure he has to feel that he is worth something in someone else's eyes or is attractive yet. Haven't you ever done the same thing?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2006): He says he misses you and you miss him. Give it another go. The break up has broken the trust in the relationship, but if love is true, trust can be re-built.
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reader, flog21 +, writes (17 November 2006):
I have been in a similar situation and responded the same way. I was with my gf for three and a half years and we broke up. I was so upset and could not stand being by myself because it would drive me absolutly crazy. I found myself drinking every night and hanging out with people I had not seen in years because I just couldn't be alone. I pretended to tell myself that I have moved on and that I was interested in other girls but deep down all I could think about was her.
Don't over do it and make him feel like you absolutly need but let him know how you feel and that you still do care about, while giving him some time to think about how much he really misses you. It will allow him to figure out that there are more important things to party and drinking every night and life can't go on like that.
Be strong but considerate and I can tell you that he is not going anywhere. If he really was over you he wouldn't be trying to hide his emotions.
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