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30-35,
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writes:I have a boyfriend (the father of my baby) who i dont love anymore from being being violent and abusive towards me, we are on 2 years now and me and my neighbor have been friends since me and my boyfriend and our daughter moved into the flat in january. me and my neighbor have been flirting alot since the other week when i knew he wasnt joking around anymore. he has a girlfriend too but they dont have a very good relationship because she is controllive, just like my boyfriend. in the past couple of weeks my neighbor and i have been texting, messaging each other and talking over facebook about how we feel about each other, that he wishes he was coming home to me, that he misses me, wants a cuddle from me again, loves to see me all the time, tells me to come outside when his leaving for work so we can see each other and so on. his girlfriend got onto his facebook one night and found out what was going on...now my neighbor (my crush) told my boyfriend they can still be friends but he doesnt want to talk to me ever again and his not been answering his phone, messages over facebook...nothing. he did answer one the morning after she found out and it said "i dont hate you but we cant be friends...trust me if u see (his gf) run away...". since it happened we always seem to end up in the same spot as each other, seeing each other if he came home from work or down town in our cars...he always says hello to me in a nice way and today he said "hey, whats up" and he started to walk towards me and his body lanuage was at me aswell, i said "hey" in a unhappy way and he paused and walked to his place...does he still have feelings for me and doesnt want my boyfriend to bash him so he says his never going to talk to me again or his just being polite?
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reader, KeighleySky  +, writes (1 May 2011):
 oh honey this really isnt what you shoud lbe worrying about. Your boyfriend is a busive towards you. You need to get out of the relationship.
what if he got worse and hit your child?
Please for the sake of your child leave this man, go and live with relatives for a while until you get back on your feet. You need to leave him before he turns onto your child.
And i think hes not speaking to you because hes upset his girlfriend, maybe hes feeling guilty.
But that isnt what you should be worrying about. Seriously honey, you need ot leave this man for the sake of your childs safety.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2011): It sounds like your neighbor is a bit of a coward. He's probably more concerned about his own gf than about your bf. He probably just wanted something on the side with you, because you were nice and available to him, but won't stand up to his gf. And now whatever you and he had isn't important enough for him to keep. Yet he still tries to act friendly as if nothing had happened, as if he has nothing to explain.
I doubt his feelings for you were genuine.
The more important problem is your violent boyfriend. Are you doing anything toward getting out of that situation? It is not safe for you and your daughter to stay with him.
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