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writes:Hi, just wondering if I'm over reacting. My bf, and I have been together for almost two years. He has pics of his ex and it began to bother me. He claims it meant nothing and said he would get rid of his album. He gave it to his mother. Well, my thought is he can get the pics back anytime, or view them when he is visiting her. He also goes on Facebook and looks at her profile. Am I wrong to feel this is inappropiate?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2010): had this experience.
if he loves you he should do what is best for you.
this does not mean throwing away the stuff, as like he said it IS part of his past.
but it does not need to be rubbed in your face. because I know what that does to you. It makes you compare yourself when you don't need to be. Just remember she is his EX. And she is his EX for a reason. i.e it didn't work. And you are working! So don't worry too much. Easier said that done. But also don't let him push the boundary of appropriate. He needs to know you won't be walked over, but at the same time to seer you are understanding. Good luck! xx
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reader, tsubu01  +, writes (31 May 2010):
Not at all. You shouldn't even be with him in the first place if he can't let go of what he had and his past. Confront him about it, and if it continues to make you feel uncomfortable, please leave him.
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reader, june234 +, writes (30 May 2010):
i have the same problem.
i got upset that my bf still had pictures of his ex on his facebook.. even on his profile pictures. i wanted him to delete them but he said he didn't want to because they were "a part of his life".. to me it looked like he was holding onto the past.
to be honest, though, what are people supposed to do with old pictures, letters, gifts from their exes? it seems strange to throw them all away because it's true, they were once an important part of your past. at least now his albums are stored somewhere where he isn't living and he will probably very rarely go and look at them. in terms of checking out her profile, i think that's just him being curious about what she's up to.. and aren't we all curious from time to time?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2010): i agree with you. ex means the past therefore no reason to check her profile and no reason to keep the pictures... :/ i was in a similar situation as you but i told him that i wasn't going to take that because i have ex bfs aswell and im not behaving this way? hope it works. x
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