A
female
age
22-25,
anonymous
writes:Hi everyone, I have a question regarding an ex that I am still in love with. We broke up in March. He said he "wasn't in the right mindset to have a girlfriend, I have to sort some stuff out" and "this doesn't mean we can't get back together." I was crushed, my heart completely broken. It was a thousand times worse than any breakup I'd been through before, even though it wasn't the longest relationship I'd been in. Even though I'd kept up hope that we could be together, the final nail in the coffin was the semi-formal dance. I arrived and immediately saw him flirting with someone's date. He talked to her for the entire night. I felt like someone had just taken my heart and thrown it in a blender. I was completely depressed for the following week, couldn't eat, couldn't sleep, couldn't really interact with anyone. I'd never felt so much emotional pain before. I knew that he obviously wasn't interested in me anymore, but I couldn't move on. I talked to other guys, kissed other guys even, but he was always on my mind. The happiness that I felt with him and the connection we had was unlike anything else. Even when we were broken up we still had chemistry when we talked to each other. Anyway it's the middle of June now and school just ended and yesterday he texted me out of nowhere asking how my summer was going. We talked like old times and he seemed genuinely interested in my life and he was talking about how one day he can maybe meet my mom and stuff (he never met my mom while we were dating). I got incredibly happy he was talking to me again even though he left me on read (I assumed it was because he was busy today). I know he isn't dating the girl from the semi-formal, and I want to tell him how much I care for him and that I would do anything for a second chance with him, but I'm scared of looking stupid. I truly feel that he's worth it and there was a special connection between us. These past few months I've concluded that I still would rather be with him than anyone else. So my question is this: would I look ridiculous asking him for a second chance or is it worth it? Any and all advice is appreciated, thank you :)
View related questions:
broke up, crush, depressed, flirt, get back together, move on, text Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (29 June 2017):
 You have had your first true heart break, and believe me if you don't block his calls and texts over the summer holidays you are going to prolong this heart ache. He does not want to be with you. Just because he sends a message doesn't mean he is interested he is probably just curious. It sounds to me like he has made his choice, and if you linger around wondering what if then you will never move on from him. You need to stop all contact.
A
male
reader, N91  +, writes (24 June 2017):
 If he wanted to be with you he would be.
Stop wasting your time, he's not letting you forget about him and is testing the waters to see if you're still an option for him.
He knows he has you wrapped around his finger and it strokes his ego. Stop giving him the satisfaction, block him so he cannot contact you, move on and find someone who's on the same page as you are.
...............................
A
female
reader, NORA B +, writes (22 June 2017):
Yes its so painful and hurts so much when the person we love finishes the relationship....believe you me we have all been there.However i do understand where you are at at the moment...is so very difficult to handle and sad.Now i want you to take a step back and ask yourself this question,would you want to be with someone that is not really into you ?.This guy seems to enjoy his freedom and chatting up other girls....while trying to keep you on a string.Remember if a man wants to be with a woman..he will be....It would be very unwise to ask him for a second chance.....because he could very well reject you and this would ADD to more hurt on your part.He must come to you and ask you for a second chance and must be serious about it.In the meantime go out with your friends,and continue with whatever interests you have.This will be hard to believe right now and how you feel about this guy.But if you do not get together again,your heart will heal in times and you can always cherish the memories and move on wiser and stronger then ever.Every day is a wonderful gift of life.Kind wishes NORA B.
...............................
A
female
reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (22 June 2017):
 He doesn't seem to want a second chance. I think moving on and letting go is your best option.
...............................
|
