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female
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41-50,
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writes:I have been working with him for nearly one 1 year. We are at the same age, at the same department, sit next to each other, and his job is designer, while my job is content writer.At first I don't have any feeling about him, just like a normal worker, but then rumor about us is started. The first rumor I noticed was that once my supervisor made joke about us at the meeting, I didn't care about it too much, but then that makes me think how come the supervisor teased us like that, based on what?...and other rumors may come from our "coincidentally late" at the office or I sometimes bought for other co-workers sweets (and always including his sweet), and he usually asked the supervisor about me (I just guess, because once he reveals that the supervisor told him "something" about me.)And other things what make me think he is interested in me:- He told I am the only one he is dared to tease and talk freely at the office. (It's true! He sometimes share his problem with friends or tell briefly about his conflict with his sister).- We have hang out 3 times: The 1st: He ride me to the company fair (its my idea, even though we dont need to be there and our appearance made other staff surprised) and on the way back to office, he revealed something about his like and dislike in the company. The 2nd: We went to buy birthday gift for him (I am the one who keep the company birthday fund). And The Last: He asked if I want to go out to buy shoes with him. (We went during office working time, because our job is flexible, and once we finish work, we can do whatever we want).- He showed me his spending: At the beginning of month, he asked me to show how to create chart and show some sample of his spending. Then I showed him ways to do, and surprisingly, at the end of the month, he asked if I want to see his spending of that month. And send it to me via mail!- When our coworker accidentally saw us together, such as at the elevator, or parking lot, they teased us, and once he replied that: "Simply, dating!". Or if we wear the same style, his reply will be: Couple shirt!- And once, through chatting, he asked my advice of leaving or staying with the company. I didnt give exact advice, just shared with him my situation when I got similar offers few months before that including: "I will be very sad if you leave". And through that chat, I also knew 3 important things he cares in his life: Job , house and marriage.- I also visited his rented room, because there was a coworker's wedding, and the location is near his place. He asked me to came and went with him. It's a rainy day and he ride me by my motorbike and I must hug him... to avoid being wet! (On the way, he also teased me about such hugges :").I dont know if I develop feelings for him or he is just flirting with me because sometime he acts very strange such as:- Ask me if I like, he will introduce his friend to me.- 3 times I heard girl with sweet voice calling him, but he hesitantly answered or just went away to return the call with... soft voice. (Always he answers his rings right at his desk).- Never reply my texts (May be because I rarely text to him, and sometime, when he waited for my text during his absence at the company, I didnt mind informing him!).Really my feelings for him is different from the beginning, even I develop a habit of looking for his bike or at his desk whenever I am at parking lot or leave my desk for somewhere else.I am very shy when people keep on teasing us. But also I am curious about his feeling for me. Is it I am into him or is it he is flirting me?He is good looking, slim and quite small as compare to me. :D Before from what he told me and others, I know he is single, but from the sweet-voice-phone calls, I am not so sure. He is quite good looking that our boss didnt believe that he is single. I just can guess he is thirsting for love because once I teased him, asked if he wanted me to read fortune for him. He agreed and asked me to see when he will have gf, before he had but now is single already?I m sorry for this long story and dont know if you can follow it with my bad description :D.
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reader, uncledarren  +, writes (22 October 2010):
 first things first before anything you need to look at yourself and decide if you have feelings for him or not. ignore the fact that you don't know if he likes you because that is not important at this stage. so think long and hard about if you actualy have feelings for him and if no then you can leave the situation alone and continue to be his friend, however if you do have feelings for him then you can go on from there.
so lets say deep down you have feelings for him and you can admit that to yourself, you have a few options then.
1. you could ignore your feelings and just continue to be hi friend and if anythig happens then it happens. personaly i wouldn't do this because apart of me would always regret it if nothing ever happened.
2. you can be honest, ask him out for a drink one night in a casual way, not as a date but more as friends having a nice relax together. this way you can get to know him abit better and you will be able to find out for deffinate if he is single or not by just bringing it up in general conversation. persoanly i would do this because for one i would be able to get to know the person better but also because i could move on from it very easily like for instance if he's single and you both seem to have a good time just say that you should do this again sometime in a flirty way. if you get a response then you could proberly have something there but if you get it shrugged of or a pally answer then you will know that you could well only be friends at this moment and time.
in reality it is totaly up to you and i can only advise, you have got to follow your heart in the end and if you feel strongly that he needs to know that you like him then tell him but if you what to drop some hints and see if you get a response then be more casual about it (like going for a drink)
hope this helps you and good luck
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