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writes:I am in a very complicated situation of a relationship...we already have one baby and he is being responsible with him.But we are not leaving in same house he just paying where the place i stay.He never said he loves me but he just say he likes me..years past i keep on waiting but seems till now i dont know.When he is around with me he is so sweet we spend time together in bed and go out sometimes.But his friend call him a womanizer and i always get hurt everytime i heard about girls that linked to him...he said that i am a childish always getting jealous and thinking that he is doing something.But how not i....ireally need someone to give me a good advice for this.Still i swallowed all my pride for him for the sake of giving my son father till he will grow up.Is it ok to keep being martir despite of many i heard about him dating with other girls?He deny when i ask about it...
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reader, Red Green 0289  +, writes (16 April 2010):
No, that's not a relationship... you need to really look at this and make sure that you're doing the right thing by staying in this odd relationship.
He's your child's father, and it's great that he's around, but you need to QUIT sleeping with him and get on with your life.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (16 April 2010):
 He is in a relationship of convenience. I would move on from him if I were in your position it seems like he just comes to you when it suits him and it would make me feel used in that position. By all means involve him in your son's life but not in your personal life. He doesn't have your best interests at heart.
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reader, Brunel  +, writes (16 April 2010):
No! Because when this man is good and ready he will just leave you anyway? Worst still you are unhappy and that will be picked up by your child?
His commitment is half-hearted, mind could this be put down to a cultural issue?
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reader, Kenj  +, writes (16 April 2010):
 It’s good he is taking responsibility for your son, and this is the least he can do and should do.
However it's clear from what you say that he loves you but is not in love with you.
Your more like a friend with special privileges to him, in some way you are being used by him. He won’t admit other girls because he does not want to loose your contact.
You should find a man who appreciates you for who you are, who will accept you and your son and love you for who you are not what you can give.
Good luck.
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