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writes:ok so my partner and i are have hit a really bad spot. He left my apartment in a mood with now reason a few days ago i don't even know why the night before we had a really great night and so much fun together then at 6am he was leaving saying he wanted to go home. Later that day he broke up with me and we haven't seen each other we have spoken but its always ended arguments. Earlier today he sent me a message saying he missed me and he cant stop thinking about me he hates how things are 4 hours later he told me he has met someone else was he saying this to hurt me or did he really mean it. Is that why we are having trouble in the first place and he didn't know how to tell me ?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (13 June 2016):
 let him go. He's not stable and he's looking for a way out.
let him go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2016): Accept him at his word. He met someone else and you need to now cut ties, and stop all further contact. You shouldn't let him toy with your emotions telling you crap like that, then telling you he's with somebody else. He's keeping you on the hook; while he's messing around with someone else.
Then when he's done, he's going to make his comeback. By keeping your emotions in limbo, you won't see what he's doing as cheating. You won't react badly or cause scenes. You'll behave with the hopes this is just a fling and he's coming back. Sweetheart, this is a game played by players.
You shouldn't want him back. He's tainted with some other woman's kisses and sweat; and everything else. He just dumped you, and didn't give you a fair warning. So put your big girl panties on, and disassociate.
He is no longer your boyfriend, and face the reality he is screwing another woman. I had to put it bluntly for you to see it for what it is. It is not my intention to be insensitive. I understand your feelings, because I've been dumped, and he found someone not two months later. Yes it hurts, but I found not contacting him or letting him contact me allowed me to get over him faster. I regained my strength and composure to full-capacity. Oh, not without going through a roller-coaster ride of emotions. The detachment process is hell, but inevitable. It is also necessary. To purge yourself of your feelings for him.
Never feel the rejection means you're not good enough. Always keep in mind you'll find someone better. This is likely to happen to everyone, sometimes more than once.
If you survive this, that means you're stronger than you may think you are now. You will find love, and it will be better; because you've learned a few things. Let it go. Start taking care of yourself. Be selfish, and pamper yourself. Place your heart in a good hiding place; so you can heal. No rebound romances, no drunk-texting, no drunken binges, no public scenes, and don't ever let him see you cry. Fight the tears with all your might. Do not talk to him. Your words will turn into pathetic pleading; or you'll go into bitch-mode, and swear like a drunken sailor. You're better than that!
Now you're free, and can direct your life anywhere you want it to go. Over time, someone is making his way to you; but first, it's got to be about "you!" While you work on yourself. Breaks between relationships are meant for self-improvement, enlightenment, and healing. Getting rid of the baggage, before dragging it into some innocent bystander's life. The next guy doesn't deserve that.
Put up your sign, you're now in repair; and go make yourself a better woman to be prepared for a much better man. You should enjoy yourself in the process. You're starting a new chapter in your life. Been there and done that!
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (11 June 2016):
 He's moody, broke up with no reason, has told you he's found someone else...
You chose him to be your partner. Why? How long had you been dating? What were the arguments about?
I personally would be happy to put such a toxic grumpy partner in the rear view and be done with him!!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (11 June 2016):
 Block him.
Let him "feel" the consequences of HIS actions. My guess is, he already had a girl lined up and that is why he started the argument, because it's a "great" reason to walk away. I don't think it was because he didn't know how to tell you, he just couldn't be bothered to tell you. Better to make you think it was YOUR fault.
You need to decide what your standards are. IF you are OK with being treated like shit, then OK keep him around. If you don't... BLOCK him and move on. DO NOT get suckered into a "let's try it again".
Personally ? I say WANT more and EXPECT more for yourself.
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