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female
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26-29,
anonymous
writes:Hello!A few days ago, I posted a question "I'm being called a teacher's pet" where I discussed how I suck up to my teacher and do multiple things for her. If you haven't read that question, please do so it wont start confusion.Mrs. _____, since the beginning, has shown favor to me. Due to her talking constantly about me to her classes is the reason other students know I'm a teachers pet.We had a project to do that I went above and beyond on. When she was talking to the class, she goes "Look at this project. Look at this creativity that she put into it and how EXPENSIVE it must have been and how much TIME it mist have taken. I don't see any of you doing multiple projects or even trying to anything like _____ does. She has set the bar for you yall so you better work."Another time a student in another class goes:"I bet ______ is your favorite student!""Ya know, she's just so self motivated and sweet and confident. She's happy to be here and I love that."On the last question, people stated that I have feelings for her. I DO NOT have ANY romantic feelings for her what so ever and I only do this to be nice. We have a very close relationship and I KNOW I'm her favorite student, but I'm humble about it. About the "Team ______" shirt, keep in mind she GAVE me the picture to do this with and said "Make it fabulous!"The question on this one is, is SHE in the wrong place? Is all of this favortism wrong on her part? Is she reciprocating my kindness? Should we both stop?Thanks!
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (7 May 2012):
 I've read and responded to your original post so I'm really not sure what you're hoping to gain from this one. I thought everyone already gave you very good advice.
We tend to be nicer to people who are nicer to us. Your teacher likes you and felt good that she seemed to make a difference in the life of a young girl. She wanted you to love learning. She appreciated and wanted to reward your enthusiasm. Over time she became concerned that your demonstrations of affection were a bit too enthusiastic so she has adjusted her behaviour accordingly. She is not wrong. She's human.
I'm not sure if you're feeling rejected, hurt and a bit silly and now looking for someone else to blame. We all have to own our actions and so you must own yours.
Blame and fault are toxic words that I don't think apply here. You went a bit too far and your teacher let you know that as gently and subtly as she could. Learn from it and move on.
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