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writes:I just broke up with my boyfriend of three years.About a month ago and I kept joking to one of my guy friends, who is also a friend of my boyfriend, about going on a reboundThen a few days ago when I went over to his place to do some revision, and we did for a bit But then we started drinking and he was bait tipsy but I got quite drunk We started dancing and then he came behind me and started holding me from behind. I told him to stop because he had a girlfriend but he told me that they had broken up the week before Then he said some other stuff which is all bait of a blur until he asked me 'so do you wanna do this' and we started making outWe didn't get far because his mum came home and I started throwing up everywhere but now I have noooo idea what to doWe have known each other for 2 years, go to the same uni and are on the same courseWe haven't spoken since that day so I have no idea what he's thinking and what to make of the situationAlso he and his girlfriend are always making and breaking up and if they get together again I'm sure he won't tell her what happenedPlease help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk guys so I texted him last night
It was a forwarded text that I sent to a couple of other people about meeting up and revising today
And we both completely pretended like nothing had happened!
I so wanted to ask what was going on, where we stood and what actually happened but I couldn't bring myself to do it
I know you said ignore him but I'm just soo confused
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou The think is that I will have to see him again though because we are on the same course at uni and we have the same lectures, so it is quite likely that I will bump into him And I really wouldn't knw how to reactShould I resend a message, like nothing happened? Or try to to start all over again with him?
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reader, JustHelpinAgain  +, writes (7 April 2013):
Thank goodness for vomiting and mums, you were lucky to have both on your side. You probably know the answer about how you feel before you asked the question. The guy you were with was just taking advantage of you, so don't worry if you never see him again either. If there's a next time please be more careful. Many women think of having rebound sex as a way of getting at a resent ex, but usually they end up feeling even worse, and the ex doesn't care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHhhmm I don't think I find him attractive
But I can't stop thinking about it
But he is not my new boyfriend as the question states were friends and I don't know what we are anymore since I haven't spoken to him since the day it happened
About a week ago
I don't even know if it is a rebound or just...benefits
Thankyou!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionLike my ex and the guy friend met through me and I think that that was the only reason they ever were 'friends' the only time they met up was when I was there
Cos he would come to my uni to visit ( our universities are really close by) and I would be hanging out with the guy since we went to the same uni
We also went to college together and I knew the guy friend had a thing fr me when we first met ( about 2 years ago)
I'm really concerned about the amount of guilt u will feel if the guy gets back with his ex again though
Am I making sense?
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reader, janniepeg +, writes (7 April 2013):
 I wouldn't do it because he is your ex's friend. When you truly want to move on you hang out with people outside of your circle to avoid gossips. If you got close to this guy it means you will run into your ex again, which will be awkward. He also doesn't have a place of his own. Sex should never feel sneaky, and friends don't have sex with each other. Even when you do it when his parents are not around it is still disrespectful to them as they own the whole place. You broke up a month ago so the pain will be subsiding more and more if you just hang in there. No need to do something you regret later. Rebound is never a good idea, it's not fair for the other guy but if you want to do it at least try dating a decent, unattached guy who wants to care about you, not just your body.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionFor some reason in the question it states that the other guy was my ex
That is not true
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