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writes:I'm 19 and although I always see guys going on dates on T.V. but never having a relationship with them when they're my age I assume thats the norm. So is it it weird that at my age that when I ask a girl out on a date, I would like to take the relationship forward at some point? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2006): Advice from a veteran dater: Think of a date as sort of a test run to see whether you and the other person would work out in a relationship. Sometimes you hang out with a chick and find that there's a perfect match, sometimes you find she's cool as a friend but not as a girlfriend, sometimes you find she's nothing more than a good lay, and sometimes you find you can't stand her. I'd say maybe only 1 in every 8 dates gives a good match. Going in with the expectation of starting a relationship is a good way to end up with a loser. Use the date to feel her out and see if she'd be right for you rather than trying to make her like you (if she's out with you she's already interested).
At 19 I'd say you should first decide whether you really want a relationship or u just want to get laid. The best way to test this is to jerk off and then see if you still want to talk to her during the first couple of minutes afterward (while your sex drive is repressed). If u still want to talk to her it might be the real deal, if not you just want to get laid. This sounds may sound sort of loserish, but trust me, there's nothing worse than lying next to some girl who really likes you, and realizing that you don't really like her, all you wanted was sex, and you don't want to be there anymore. There is no way to make a graceful exit in the 1/2 hours after sex.
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