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writes: Hey, I'm 22 and worrying about the age gap between my boyfriend and I. He's twelve years older than me and we've been friends since I was nineteen - I met him at 'work' if you can call it that (I play pro sport) - and we've been together for a year and a half and everything is quite literally perfect.Except I haven't told my mum.I was wondering if anyone thinks twelve years is too big an age gap and how I can explain it to my mum - don't have a dad so only half the effort is going to be needed :P - since I'm really quite worried!! There's pretty much nothing that can be faulted about him - apart from his bathroom manners . . . - but he's ever so kind and very laid back, apart from when he's on court.Any advice? Please!! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2010): The 'problem' will solve itself. If your love is as real as you say it is, 30 years from now you'll both be practically the same age. I am currently enjoying my second year as the older half of a relationship with a 37 year age gap: 60 and 23. Try telling that to mum! Age is just a number. It's how your mind works that determines how 'old'(curious, impulsive, passionate, enthusiastic or not) you are. If you've found somebody you can relate to and love and who loves you too, grab him and dont let go! And tell the whole world (including mom) so they can celebrate with you!
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reader, Sweetjen  +, writes (26 June 2010):
Well i dont see the problem u grown and as long as in ur heart its who u wanna be with no1 can tell u anything not even ur mom but be honest and real to her let her kno how u feel b4 they meet so this way she knows a bit of ur feelings and how he treats u and maybe when u introduce them they will get along better age aint nothing but a number love is the thing! Holla good luck mamas
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2010): No your age gap isnt to big. I dont think any are. My fiance is 14 years younger than me, weve been together over 2 years. Its about the people involved. Do you have the same goals? wants ? desires ? Morals ? Values ? Ambitions ? Do you respect and care for each other ?These are basic questions in any relationship, age not included.I believe that love knows no age nor race nor religion nor distance. You cannot help who your heart wants.Now, as for your mother ... Ill tell you ... him being your "dirty" little secret isnt fair to him. Tell your mother little bits, like ... I met this amazing man, he does this for a living, he likes to do this and that. Tell her who he is. If you love him, and she senses that then she shouldnt really care if he was purple, never mind older. Because its about how he makes you feel, and how he treats you.
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reader, EvaLuna  +, writes (25 June 2010):
I was once in similar situation and it was great. 12 years - in my opinion is not a big gap , and in your case i think that such age gap in necessary. The absence of your father - although it might have not effected you much - but having a mature man who is a strong and perfect figure in your life is a perfect thing.
Go ahead tell your mother, I think she is gonna like it :)
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