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writes:Im a white guy and dating a black gal that i had met through work. She was not a colleague but worked for a firm that worked with my office. To me she was an extremely attractive woman and she had the most infectious laugh.We dated about three times and I want to see her naked for the first time - probably needless to say – she will probably gave me an instant erection. I would like her to stay the night at my place. I think we could have excellent sex together. To those that have been in an interracial relationship Or at least had an interracial sexual encounter? what obstacles have you had to overcome? Where there cultural clashes / similarities?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2023): Are you planning on having sex with her as the person she is or as an example of her race?I suggest you get to know her a bit so you will know how much she likes you.You have assumed she will be keen to get down and dirty but you dont have much to go on other than the assumption that the third date is sex time!Perhaps you assume that all females will throw off their clothes for your approval.Maybe youve only ever had third date one night stands.You sound rather entitled as if she owes you sex.So start thinking if you view any woman as more than a potential notch on your belt.I picked up a bit of rascism from you also so possibly you think her race makes her into your next third date trophy.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (18 January 2023):
Wiseowle are you out of your mind? Do you even understand what racism is? It's it racist to refer to someone's skin color for a legitimate reason (ie while discussing race)? Is the word gal racist? Old fashioned yes, but it has no racial connotation whatsoever. You say you're not scolding him due to wokeness but this just screams as some thoughtless woke nonsense.
Anyways to answer your question. Obviously there are cultural differences. They may be relevant, they may not be, but you'll never know until you try. I've been with women of many races and cultures and you can never tell if you're compatible until you give it a try. Don't over think it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2023): "...black gal?!!"
Where are you writing from, the Jim Crow south, 1939???
I'll save you some embarrassment and suggest you don't use such an insulting and disrespectful colloquialism around African American women. I've lived in the south, and I know things you don't say; not because of political correctness, or "wokeness"...but because it's downright disrespectful and racist!!! I hope you don't mean it that way. If you didn't know better, now you do. It is equivalent in tone and context as referring to women as bitches. I believe she'll quickly educate you should you make such a vulgar mistake in her presence.
She is a woman. Not a creature of a totally different biological species. You're setting her up mentally as a "racial-fetish" rather than a woman you could possibly grow feelings for.
She has feelings and deserves all the kindness and respect you'd give any women you would care for.
Culture clashes? What are you talking about?
I'm a product of an interracial couple. It has some drawbacks due to ignorance, but ignorance has been around since the dawn of time. You work your way around it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2023): Personally I have never been with a black girl but I assume they are the same as white girls. Colour is only skin deep.
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