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writes: Im a guy and with a relationship with another guy over on the internet for 4 months. We both love each other very much. My partner has ask me to be his husband and hes serious! Does this show that he really loves me or just playing games with me? side note(we havent met but want to and we are both 18!)
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (12 December 2005):
Well the fact that you are having doubts in his commitment seems to sugges to me that you are feeling maybe you don't want to either, thats why you can see maybe its not right, after you have only been chatting for 4 months.
I think due to the feeling that you are confused and not sure what his intentions are and for the fact that in general a marriage that is formed by people who havent knwon each other for long, doesnt work out (if it does its normally luck!) that you should wait.
If this guy loves you like he says, then he will wait. Wait till you both meet up and spend more time together.
Love waits.
So yeah thats my advice, wait and till you feel cnfident that he is being true and that you feel that you love him for sure too!
Your bf might actually think marriage is a great idea and really does want it, but alot of people do but that doesnt make it right. Especially at the age you and him are, 18, the view of marriage might seem more glamerous. I think you both after meeting should sit down and talk about what marriage REALLY is, so thats not about all the good things, talk about the real issues that will arise. Like children, work, religion, homes, family, commitment and all those things.
goodluck and I hope it works out ofr thw two of you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2005): it could be possbile that he loves you but i would not marry him if i was u, atleast meet him and live with him first b4 commiting your live to him. I once was in a an online relationship for about 1 year he also wanted to marry me but after awhile of getting to know him for a long period of time i was so happy i did not go any further with him as he was lying to me the hole time i found out he was not really the age he said he was, he was seeing other females and he was a bisexual, as soon as i found this out i totally stop having anything to do with him and i will never have an online relationship again, i suggest you get out of the relationship now as online relationships never go anywhere and you never know this guy might be, ask yourself this, do you really know everything about this person? good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2005): hello :)
just so that you are clear on one thing: proposing marriage does not mean that your partner is in love with you. love is based in trust, commitment, and caring. i understand that you have been in an online relationship for 4 months...but you have not met in person and i do not beliee you have the basis yet (especially after only 4 months) to know whether you are going to be able to sustain a loving marriage. marriage is a huge commitment and maybe your artner is taking it to lightly. perhaps he asked you to marry him because he was caught up in how much he loves you. if you and your partner are planning on meeting, i would suggest perhaps getting to know one another in person before discussing marriage again. i know that some people really click online, but once they get together, one of them may have a realy annoying habit that the other cannot stand. loving someone over the internet and loving them in real life is different i believe. my advice is to get to know this guy better, then see where things go. you are sooo young, and have the rest of your life to be with this guy before committing yourself to be his husband. best of luck, i hope i was of some assistance!
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reader, dede651 +, writes (11 December 2005):
Sorry hun... I think that is quite silly. You can't really love someone you haven't met(though you actually might). Did you think about how it would be to actually live with this guy for the rest of your life? Thats what love is supposed to be about. Especially marriage. Its supposed to be forever, I can't tell you for sure if he is serious or not because I do not know him but if I were you... I wouldn't take my chances.
--Dede
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2005): i think you shouldnt say anything to that question. you dont know if he messing around or if he is foreal. if you havent met him and havent been on a date with him, dont risk it. it could be some kids messing around, thinking its funny. meet him and hang out with him first, then if you are in love with him, then you should know exactly what to do
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